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41-50,
anonymous
writes:We have been together for almost 2 years. Since the beginning of our relationship he never told me about this girl until I found out trough his friend he used to like her and wanted to go out with her but she never wanted to. Everytime we had a fight he would call her or even sometimes when we were together and he drunk, he would text her as well. We had big arguments because of it and she is gone away now, so obviously he stopped with the calls.Last weekend he wrote her a message on facebook commenting how it was good for her she had found a guy. I think that he is just jealous that she has someone, because he wanted to be the one to be with her. My worry is: Am I with someone who tells me loves me but it is no true ? Should I be with someone and be always thinking that I was the second choice since she did not want him ?Should I believe that he loves me and just forget about this girl? I fell that I was wasting my time being with this person.What do you think ?
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reader, flicka23  +, writes (19 March 2009):
 Personally I think that it's of no use being with a guy who thinks of another woman. Maybe he is thinking of the other girl while you are having sex, who knows? The fact that he still text her, he even found a way to remain in contact with her even when she was away prove that he has not gotten over her and he still thinks about her. He may be with you but in his heart he feels love for the other girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): Well for starters, everyone has a past so thats something he can not help. He probably didnt tell you about this girl to spare your feelings and avoid the reaction that you are having right now. And you say that you have been together for 2 years, my guess is that he loves you or wouldn't be with you. Unfortunatley we do and say things in anger that we dont mean so I would try to look past the texting her. If I were you I would have a long talk with him about how you feel. Dont make the time you are spending with him wasted time, you can make your relationship work. Just communicate. You might be suprised by what he has to say. Good luck.
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