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writes:Hi, I am approaching 29 and feel like I have nothing in my life.My freinds are all off getting married, having kids, buying houses, in great jobs etc. I live in a shared house with a 25 year old and I work in dire job for 22,000 a year, same as most 20 year olds. I have been to Uni and I have a degree and I am doing something about the work situatiion, by becoming a teacher in September 2010. This will then ebable me to have a career that I will love and buy a house as a key worker. However, I am constantly destressed by the fact I have nothing, that all my friends are getting married and buying houses. I just found out last week, that 3 of my closest friends and their partners all went out to lunch last week and they did not invite me and my partner, I feel it is because they see me a loser, like I am not grown up like themThanks Reply to this Question
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reader, AngellicaWaters  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 It's so important to focus upon the things you do have that are positive in life. If you forget to acknowledge them, the quality of your life will be less no matter how many good things you have. You have to take the time to appreciate them.
Also anything that doesn't satisfy you, change it! The good news is, it sounds like you are already doing this by becoming a teacher. Great job!
Don't live your life for your friends. It doesn't sound as if they are very good friends if they wouldn't invite you with them. But before jumping to that conclusion, ask them why you weren't invited along and tell them how it makes you feel not to be included. See what they have to say.
Try to follow your passions in life and focus on positivity and things you are thankful for. If you need to, do a daily exercise where you write 3 things you are thankful for. Even if they are smaller things, this will help you focus your mind on more positive things.
I hope this helps and I wish you more happiness. :-)
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