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writes:I have known this guy for about three years now. When we met there was mutual interest, but nothing ever came of it romantically, basically cause we worked together. And there were several times when I knew he wanted us to be more than friends and vice versa for me. Either way, we became friends instead. We have always been open with each other, even on the touchy stuff like relationships. Now that he has moved away we keep in contact regularly. He has been gone for a while, and I have thought of him many times in that different way, even before he moved. Even when I have tried to date, I can't help but compare other guys to him. We are so alike in many ways too like we have led double lives. I got to really missing him and thinking of him a few of months ago, talking to him more than usual and the feelings haven't resovled. Now I have the opportunity to see him soon (he will be in town). It has been several months since I have last seen him. We live pretty far apart (w/in the same state though) and there is no chance of me moving within the next two years at least. Please shed some light on this. Reply to this Question
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 I would tell him, long distance relationships can work if you work hard on them! Think about what would come of it if you told him, what would you want his reaction to be like??? If you are truly in love and can't stop thinking about him then arrange to meet up and tell him, just start by saying 'I like you a lot more than a friend' ...x
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reader, vmadman +, writes (6 March 2009):
If he is such a good friend then surely you can talk to him about this.
Just, tell him, and see what he says.
Be careful not to "throw it on him", however, if he doesnt share your feelings then it could destroy your friendship forever.
Ask him something like, "Do you ever think of what it would be like if we would have been more than friends?". You know, dance around the subject, dont dive in.
Good luck.
l.c.
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