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writes:I recently posted pertaining to my ex girlfriend who I have been hanging out once again after a 5 year hiatus. Here is a piece of it:"She communicates online daily with a guy she used to be CRAZY about back in college 6 years ago. I mean CRAZY about. They never went out, but they did hook up during some drunk moments when we were all single. She told me that they talk a LOT now in her words, so she was up front about that. However, they had an extremely flirtatious relationship and she would always give in when he flirted with her. He moved away now. A couple of years back, on a social networking website, she left him comments telling him to visit her and she missed college with him and she had a boyfriend at this time."Anyway, she told me that they are GOOD friends now, but has no interest in him anymore. I took her at her word. He moved away anyway. HOWEVER, I have noticed on instant messenger that he is VERY rarely online when she is not online and when they are both online at the same time, they are online for hours, then when she signs off...he signs off seconds or minutes later. I mean it's BLATANT. Since, I'm online talking to her at the same time, I just notice this. What bothers me is not that she is cheating because I know she wouldn't. Again, she admits to me that they talk online. However, it's that I'm talking to her online and trying to compete for attention I feel with him and I'm debating whether I should bring this to her attention. I can't quite understand what kind of a friendship this can be where it seems he only goes online to talk to her? Thanks for any help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): She IS my ex. However, We've been hanging for a few months now a few times a week and she is asking for committment. I feel very uncomfortable committing under these circumstances.
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reader, rcn +, writes (13 October 2009):
 is she your ex now? cause if so, I don't think you have as much of a reason to bring this to her attention. If you're dating, I could see this being inappropriate behavior on her part. It sounds as if physically they are not together, but mentally and emotionally she's connected past the level of a normal friendship.
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Yeah i would deffinately bring it to her attention and put a stop to! Where hes only online to talk to her...thats weird...it might be a friendship now but he is obviously going to try to make it more! You need to put your foot down and let her know your not stupid and do see whats going on! Good luck!
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