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writes:I am in a a difficult situation. I believe that I have trust and faith in my husband, but also feel like I am being tested all the time. I am pregnant with our third child, my husband is in school full time, so the stress level in our house is already high. The problem is I feel as though my husband doesn't love me. He shows no affection for me, or even touches me. We still make love every couple of weeks, but that seems to be the extent of any physical contact. I have asked him to make more of an effort in this area, but have never seen a change. Latley since he has been in school, and since the fatigue from this pregnancy has come on we have i think understandinhly become more distant. He comes home studys and I go usually go to sleep, after putting the other kdis down. After going through our phone bill the last couple of months there has been some excessive texting to a girl he knows from school. In amounts of 20+ times per day, he has guy friends at school that he doesn't text this much so I find it in appropriate. He says he has askes "everyone" at school to stop texting him so much, which is good I guess. Then last night while he was bathing the kids I walked in and he frantically shut down what he was looking at on his Ipod. Which when I asked he told me (with his hands shaking) which were pictures of some "hot" girl that he knew that was going to be going to his school next year. Are my expectations to high? I think that if he was invested in our family and our relationship that he wouldn't be "looking" in all these other places.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): This was my questioned and I recently found out that it was actually a full blown emotional affair. I have been ripped apart from the inside out and fear what my stress could be doing to this baby. At this moment I feel as though he is only a doner to this baby, and want nothing to do with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): Thank you for responding :o) I do think that he feels bad, but at the sametime I don't think that he feels inappropriate or wrong. So this could just go in different ways. I think that he know all of it makes me sad. I try to communicate with him, he isn't the best at doing it back. But I will definitely try using my words more carefully.
Thank you so much, I truely appreciate it!!
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 You are his wife and you are pregnant, so he should be giving you way more love and lots of attention. You talked to him and he has not listened, but you need to tell him how you feel so that he can take your feelings under consideration.
If you always approach him with the the problem as
you do this....
When you act like this....
why do you always.....
he is not going to take responsibilty for his actions because he might feel he is always being accused. How about you try approaching in a different way.
I feel sad when your gone...
I feel unloved by your actions
I feel happy when you spend time with me....
It might help sing this method, he might take responsiblity in his actions because he may feel bad for causing all this pain to you.
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