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writes:Hi everyone I been reading all the good advices here when it comes to relationship. Now its my turn to ask your advices I am tired and confused on how can I handle the situation.My bf and I were on 2 yrs relationship now and we pass some ups and down pretty normal to a relationships to face some problems but we manage to handle it. Recently his company had face major problems he is under lots of stress and frustration and sometimes he will vent it on me. I love him and patiently listening to his complains and frustration but am hearing enough when he goes on and on and he dont seems to move on. I told him that its hurting me when I feel like become his punching bag and everytime i tried to calm him down he just says I dont understand the situation he is in now. Of course I do and I feel it too it hurts me to see him under lots of pressure and his company is not doing well now. But I try to talk to him and giving him advice that everything is gonna be alright just dont lose hope God is there and well reach out for him to get strenght. Im always with him to give moral support but when I tried to asked him to slow down with his temper he starts yelling at me. Pls can anyone advice me how can I handle this situation i love my bf so much but I develop fears when he is mad. Appreciate all your advices and God bless you all.Thank You.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Hi,
No you don't have to live in fear. I think most people can relate to loving someone -- be it family or loved one -- who has a temper and who is difficult to calm down ...but that is up to a point.
Everyone has a difficult time at some point in life and goes through a lot of stress, so you can understand his frustration with his company problems...
BUT
You should not have to constantly tolerate his temper during this time. Some people may say that you need to give him space. Maybe think about moving out (or tell him to move out) for a period of time to allow him to calm down and wait until his crisis has passed or has calmed down.
Although that said, you haven't said that he has ever apologised for his behavior; something which he should have done. To be brutally honest, and maybe it's just me, but yours doesn't sound the happiest of relationships, even before his problems. Now of course I may be completely wrong; only you can say.
Has there ever been a time when you have been truly close to him when he has been stressed?
Has he ever thanked you for your support during this time?
I don't think there is a definitive answer to your question; if you feel that the situation is repairable and you really love him, then you should give him time; but if you're tired of handling it and if he doesn't begin to appreciate you and your support even during his problems then maybe you need to think about moving on...
Take care
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