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I feel like he should know better about how to please a woman and am thinking of dumping him!

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Question - (3 July 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 4 July 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, *upidlover89 writes:

Well, I am dating a new guy. We have had sex about four times, it only lasts maybe 2 minutes (premature ejaculation) the problem is I really like him but sex is important in a relationship for me.

He does not perform oral sex on me, or seem to want to try to please me knowing he has this problem. He told me it only happens with me, but I'm not sure I believe that. What should I do? I'm really just thinking of dumping him. He is a 30 year old man, and I feel like he should know better by now about needing to please the woman please give me your advice on this???

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (4 July 2011):

Danielepew agony auntIf he is not the man you want, then he is not the man you want.

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A female reader, RedAthena United States +, writes (4 July 2011):

RedAthena agony auntTalk to him waaaaaaaaaaaaaay outside of the bedroom and let him know that you want to find ways to make the lovin' last longer. He may be uber excited, you may have more sexual energy than he is used to and it intimidates him, or he may just lack experience.

There are men of ALL ages that just do not have clue that you are not satisfied unless you speak up.

If you are not that direct, show him in bed by taking his hand and whispering what you like. If you think he can not handle you being direct, let him know oral turns you on so much and you can not stop thinking about him pleasing you this way.., ask if he would be willing to explore new things!

Telling you that you are the only person his premature happens with is insensitive.

Good sex is mostly about chemistry and good communication.

Sometimes you have to work a little at it to get them both right~

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