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writes: Im a 22 year old female with religious values and am a virgin, and in March 08, a friend of mine jokingly told me to watch some porn, i laughed it off, i never really cared for it. but i got curious and saw it, was disgusted but then liked it, i started masturbating and LOVED orgasming while watching porn, i experienced my first orgasm while watching porn. the fantasy of it all is wat excites me, i feel tis makes me orgasm more quickly t han if i were with someone in bed, i think b/c when ur with someone u like its more romantic (less fantasy) and i just feel more comfortable touching myself...anyways, i feel guilty about watching porn, i prefer gay porn b/c its filled with hot men touching hot men! but it has really affected my relationship with my religion, i dont feel like praying b/c i feel like im a bad person who shouldnt pray b/c ill b a hypocrite. wenever i hav the house to myself, i HAVE to watch porn. How the hell do i stop? i want to stop, i do not like it at all. all it does is give me momentary pleasure, and i feel so bad afterward. how do i stop?
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reader, Derpdederper  +, writes (21 August 2012):
Yes I have the same problem I'm a guy and I watch the lesbian stuff I'm a Christian and I feel like a hypocrite too but please you must understand that you can pray to God and trust God no matter what sin you have committed he loves you and that will never change you don't come to him clean you come to him broken and he makes you clean if you need prayer you can message me we can both get through it so don't fret and just try to resist temptation as best you can but God knows it's hard
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): The best thing to do in my opinion is to do confession to a priest and let him and God guide you to stop. And pray your thoughts to God. It takes time and it's a little tough and you have to have faith in them. Remember it's a sin, masturbating does not follow with the Will of God.
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reader, lauraho +, writes (5 July 2011):
You can use this software(http://www.goldlimiter.com) to block porn from yourself. Total lock feature in application enables you to block porn from yourself without a chance to unblock it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): I have the same problem homegirl, Been working on it for about a year. The porn part ALWAYS bothered me but the masturbation just began to. I'm working on it to this day. I avoid doing any of it for a few days.. max. 8 then i RELAPSE.
THE BEST THING that works for me is to just KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. Hard thing to do when you're home alone alot... but honestly, it DOES get easier. You just really have to make yourself HATE it more than you love it. Remember that one day you'll be married and you will be pleased, so theres no need for it. Remember that you are a Beautiful person and are better than such a Disgusting thing. It really is Disgusting and probably the most Shameful thing in my life and assumingly yours too. Imagine what it would feel like to Overcome this ? Just imagine what a feat that would be ? And How you would be rewarded for it in the Here-After. Imagine living your life without this Secret constantly haunting you and Imagine feeling Pure again instead of Tainted. Remember, there was a time before this addiction and, God Willing, there will be a Chapter AFTER this in our lives. Stay Strong, Stay Persistant, Pray for Guidance and NEVER EVER Give Up. You and I are both BETTER THAN THIS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): You are not a bad person. However, if you wish to stop watching porn, there are porn blockers you can purchase for $25 that will block those sites for you.
Good luck!
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reader, silveq  +, writes (25 August 2010):
I have the same addiction.best way is to not consider a sin as it is natural. earlier, I had the same problem use to format and use to take a vow that I will not watch. I have given that the more you restrict it the more you watch it. So let it be naturally.
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reader, uncannyjae +, writes (6 March 2010):
well i think the best thing to do is set a goal for yourself. i dont feel there is anything wrong with it if you are single but this poses a big problem if you are in a relationship. i believe that it is the safes form of sex. with the fright of H.I.V and aids a self lesson in the world of sex can be a very promising thing. i had the same problem and i would always feel bad because i would say i was done with it. then i'd give in and hit one of those websites. i dont think you should feel bad. i think you should use it as a reward system see how long you can go without it, and either reward yourself by watching a bit and pleasing yourself or kick the habit. its a win win situation. i also dont believe you should feel any different about it or your religion. i am a christian and the way i see it is that god gave us free choice. and we are incontrol of the choices we make. so why else would he give it to us if he didnt want us to use them. I also dont believe god would like to see us walking around with the burden of knowing we have some sexually transmitted virus or something. =)
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reader, nachos mojados  +, writes (23 April 2009):
I'm going to tell you something, my friend.
God does not exist. I don't want or need to get into religious discussion, I am convinced more than enough about his nonexistance.
No matter how much you watch porn, NOTHING is going to happen! there's no such thing as a God judging you. I
t makes me sad to see there are people who deny themselves pleasures of this nature because of such a ridiculous belief. Please watch all the porn you want and enjoy yourself! everyone does!
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reader, aman +, writes (18 February 2009):
Most guys... almost all... look at porn at least from time to time. Plenty look at it many times a week. And plenty look at porn AND have a girlfriend. Guys see tons of perfect girls that way. Models with makeup, special lighting, etc... and yet they are still happy with their real-life girlfriends (and their bodies) who are not perfect.And as for the relationship and porn... a lot of guys would find it exciting to watch porn with their girlfriend. Probably not gay porn, but hetero porn.As for the blocking things... I think that's a pretty bad fix. You put the block in, chances are you'll be able to find your way around it when you really want to watch some. If I were you I wouldn't worry about it until it is actually affecting a relationship. Right now your motivation isn't very strong, and I don't know how successful quitting might be. If you are in a relationship and it causes problems, then you would be properly motivated to quit.But hey, that's just me. If you want to quit now, you'll probably need outside help, like from your pastor (or what have you), which may be pretty embarrassing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni just dont want to end up in a relatinship and doing it...im worried ill like porn more than my man:( im also worried that if i see so many penis' wen i actually have a man, it wont be as exciting to me, and i want that excitement..but i still love watching porn, how do you block sites on ur computer, i dont download it i just watch it on websites.
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reader, aman +, writes (17 February 2009):
Feeling guilty about making yourself feel good seems pretty silly.
Are you a good person in society? Do you do your work? Are you nice to people? God cares more about how you treat other people than about what you do in your spare time.
As long as your personal habit doesn't get in the way of the rest of your life, you shouldn't feel guilty about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): If your God (or any other of the deities Martini mentions) didn't intend for people to masturbate, whether to porn or not, he would not have issued people with fingers and thumbs or erogenous zones. How do you think celibate priests get by? I bet they've got a bigger porn stash and more boxes of tissues than most of their flock.
Stop feeling so guilty about it. It's a normal pastime for a great many people and what you do in the privacy of your own bedroom is entirely your own business. I say if it feels good, do it! How is it harming anything or anyone? What religion says it's a bad thing to do?
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reader, iMuse  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Well as the saying goes, 'Curiousity killed the cat'.You have to take your mind off it. Delete all the porn you have and I'm sure there's a way to block porn sites. Even if it means taking off your internet access for a while to get over it. Nobody's perfect and it's only normal. So don't think God will hate you for it.Good Luck =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Ah that's unfortunate that you're allowing yet again, another religion to limit yourself as a human being. [sigh] Without bringing up another battle of words (had a few of those in 2006 and 2007), you stop by going cold turkey. Delete all the porn you have, wipe away all the bookmarks and history and read your bible/koran/mantra/spaghetti book.
Alternatively, (I don't want to suggest this, but you're a person with erm, religious 'values') you can go to church/temple/forum and ask the pastor/monk/priest/holy man for direct help. I believe you can be saved if you're an Evangelist by having some guy slap you across the forehead. Then again, I wouldn't know if that really works.
Regardless, go cold turkey. Think about Jesus Christ, Siddartha Buddha, Moses, God, Aliens, Allah! When you think about them, pray, chant, sing, that will probably help you. It will IF YOU BELIEVE in it. Believe in Christ, Buddha, Allah! And you, you my dear, shall be saved, achieve Nirvana, be one with God/Aliens.
Though I sound sarcastic, I'm pretty sure I'm also giving sound advice to a person with religious 'values'.
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