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*iranjan
writes:Dear all,Its a painful story.I have a girlfriend and for last two years we were dating. I left everything for my GF- my family, children. Now they are far away from me and never can be reunited. I did all this by trusting her love, I was a puppet in her hands. what ever she said i did everything. It was my first love in life. Now I am at late thirties and she 15 years younger to me. I believed She was madly in love with me.Even a single minitue late in calling her made her annoyed. We talked hours together both in day and night.when I returned to my home town after a long tenure in other areas, we got many occasions to know even closer. We made physical relationships many times.I was ever ready to lead a life with her. On a fine day I even tied a knot in her neck in a nearby temple, and we were Hus and wife. All this I did because I love her a lot and I need her till my last breath.But all of a sudden she deviated from me. A good proposal has been fixed, next week its her engagement and Next month marriage. she tells me its all due to her family compulsion. At the same time she is not ready to leave them and come with me. Now she tells me she need six months time, by New year 2011 she will break every thing and rejoin with me.Now a days she never turns back. No phone calls, no mails.She never turn up to my repeated queries.I am broken from all the sides. I lost my family, friends everything only due to her. I never thought she will cheat me like this. My whole world was nothing but her. Still I love her more than anything. Should I allow her to head with this marriage? I got every evidence to stop this marriage. Please help.Please understand my mental state. I lost my sleep, my appetite. I am in a deep depression state, I cannot imagine even now she can be a cheater like this.. Reply to this Question
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reader, SnowyWater  +, writes (13 August 2010):
Dear Friend,
Please don't despair.
There is Love out there.It is everywhere and in every part of the world.
She was only a human who matched you, and who made it possible to reconnect with love and the universe for you.
She does not own either of these..she was only your gate to them.. and one that was not aware of her power, and too weak and in her humanity to honestly aknowledge the power that she had over you(she probably did not even know it.)
Love and the eternal dance of life are still there, you just wrongly presume that she was your only key to it.
There might be other keys, or you might be able to reconnect with it on your own.
Try to balance yourself, look after yourself.
Life is within you, life is around you, you can access it, without her.
Don't look into yourself..try to focus your attention on something outside.. lift yourself out of the darkness. It is within your capability.
Look at nature, look at how different processes usually take the same course...trust this motion.. trust your body to help you be yourself again.. reconnect with the world.. .try to be in tune with it...you will find peace.. you will grow...and you will reconnect with Love...through someone else.. or through music, art..Trust in nature and life...and you will be reconnect with light.
Please don't despair...you are not alone.
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reader, angiejamie  +, writes (12 August 2010):
Now you know how your ex wife and family feel. In my honest opinion, you got what you deserved. Now next time you get in a relationship, you wont screw it up.
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reader, Niranjan +, writes (11 August 2010):
Niranjan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear,
Thank you for going through my story and giving me valuable advices.But....
Pl understand my state of mind. I never thought of her will ruin me like this. Still I love her from my heart.I never took love as a time pass, may be I am more sensitive or not a practical man of this century.I sat with psychologists many sessions but could not improve myself.Still I weep for her, how could she behave like this?
dear, please don't leave me alone at this juncture. Guide me towards a normal life. I will be grateful to you for the rest of my life.Promise. I have miles and miles to go before my last sleep. Please guide me, don't throw me away, I still have faith in humanity and love.
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reader, Gemmarrr +, writes (10 August 2010):
i really do feel for you because you did evreything for this women and she goes and does this 2 you, my advice is divorce her becuse if she did it once she will do it again you can do better. read that you left your kids, i dont no if you see them but the thing is my mom did a runner on me only a year ago and i have bipolar myself so i know what its like to feel so low but you have leave her because she is going to do it again and again and i know its hard but keep strong
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reader, coacoa1 +, writes (9 August 2010):
I know it's hard but, everything happens for a reason. Even though you love her you gotta learn to love youself a little more and stop hurting yourself. If she was really the women for you then none of this would be happening. Try to let her go. Good Luck!
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reader, peace love nsn +, writes (8 August 2010):
first i would eat haha then i would leave her go for some one closer to your age and dont try to stop her weding it will only make things worse. one day some one will walk into your life and you will realize why it didnt work out with anyone else. i have fallen in love before and when it didnt work out i could never get over it! but no i have my special some one and i know why i didnt work out :) good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): Its hard man. But any girl that would want you to leave everything behind for her and is that controlling is nothing you want. If I were you I'd stop trying to contact her and try to reconcile with everyone you lost because of her
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