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writes:Hi There,I know I'm a good person both inside and out however, is it normal to feel rather jealous or sad that whenever I make a comment on my page on FB no one responses or comments on my comments or thoughts? It seems that these "friends" (whether they are relatives of mine or friends of mine) don't comment on my thoughts or pictures. But when it comes to other relatives making comments or putting out thoughts, people comment away. It seems like these people (most that I see at parties adn get togethers) write a lot of stuff or "like" what these other relatives write on FB. I may say stuff like "Happy Holidays" or "Happy New Year" and no one responses. HOwever, when someone like another relative makes a comment like that everyone comments away. I feel rather unwelcomed and unliked by these people that I may just want to take them off of my "friends" link. Is that wrong? I just feel so taken aback by these relatives. It's upsetting...and these girls married into the family, I didn't grow up with them. What's weird is I have this one cousin I grew up with and his wife seems to act rather defensively or jealous whenever I talk with him. He's my blood relative for goodness sakes. I'm also getting married and no one seems to want to help me out. I don't know what to do with my cousins. I may not want to see them any longer. Please help. Not doing so well on FB!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaybe so, however, I went on last night with a fresh set of eyes and saw my sister posting a comment and these two cousins that never say anything on my post commented on my sister's post. It was ironic yet at the same time I wondered why they would post on her comment and not mine. It's like they have sonar as to when my sister makes a comment and will only comment on her stuff. Come on, you can't say people only have time when they want to go on. I've known of others that have FB capability on their phones or alerts as to when certain people go on and make comments. This one cousin sang praises about my sister when she commented. You can't tell me it's coincidence. But sincerely, thank you everyone. And I did write an email to that one cousin and she said she purposely waits for my sister's comments only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): How did you ever make it through high school? Seriously. Toughen up. Realize that not everyone cares about what you say or think. Just as you do not care about every single thing everyone else says or thinks.
Most people have real lives and do not have all day long to post comments on pictures or ramblings.
I'd recommend you turn off facebook. Since it seems you can't handle it. I'm not trying to be cruel, but when I read your initial post, my eyes rolled off the back of my head, and started heading south.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone,
Thanks for your responses and thoughts. I think part of it is that some of the people responding on FB are cousins that I did grow up with and some of them are the ones that have married into the family. The blood cousins that don't respond but respond immediately to my sister or to my other blood cousins, yet they don't say anything to me. They more or less say things like happy birthday or congratulations or nice pics to my sister and other relatives and nothing to me. I don't like feeling jealous or ignored. Just like tonight, my sister finally came on to FB (she's always had one) and posted a happy birthday tribute to her son. I didn't go on because I didn't see it until now and also, all of these cousins went on to say happy birthday. I made a tribute to my son and no one said anything. Just maybe two people but that was it. No one else said anything. Maybe it's wrong for me to feel this way but I feel like deleting everyone except for a select few. Is this wrong? I hope not. I know FB is a social network and that's why I feel like, geeze guys, I'm alive and well and you guys don't say anything not even to my son's birthday? It's like I don't exist to these people. I'm sorry, it's just like I thought these people thought of me in a nice way, but it seems like...and this is not just a well, they weren't on line to see it or they have busy lives or whatever cause this is all year long. I only go on at a certain time during the day and well...and no one talks to me. They literally ignore me. It's not a good feeling but then again as you've mentioned, this is either about popularity or someone well liked people. It can be hurtful and maybe I need to understand that life isn't about how many comments you get but how much you like you and don't need FB to feel good about yourself. Instead, just go in and get out and who cares if certain cousins don't respond to you, right? What counts is the many other blessings that you have in your life. I wil work on my self esteem and find other meaningful friendships.
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reader, shoccs  +, writes (16 February 2011):
Seriously you worried bout a bunch of people in a chat group, trust me make real friends not on the net.
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reader, authenticgal +, writes (16 February 2011):
Well, I kind of understand you. I get "jealous" sometimes but I realize that I don't care if people respond to my comments or not. Perhaps they don't have a lot to say or it doesn't need to be responded too.
Don't take it too hard if someone don't respond to our facebook comment. Sometimes it might have something to do with popular or being well-known. You can't really do anything about that.
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