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writes:This sounds so silly but I cant get over a guy Ive only met twice. First met him 6 weeks ago and it was like love at first sight. We had an amazing night and met up again a few weeks ago. After another amazing day and night, I knew I had fallen for him. The only problem was that he was in the military and works 300 miles away. We did talk about starting a long distance relationship. But then he got cold feet and said he couldnt do it. Although I completely understand his reasons, I feel absolutely gutted inside. When I say Ive never met anyone like him before I mean it. It usually takes me such a long time to be attracted to anyone, but with him it was at was first sight. He had everything that I was attracted to. He ticked all the boxes. The only bad thing was that he worked away. Now I just cant get my head around the fact that in the space of 6 weeks I met someone, fell for them and then watched them walk out of my life for good and will never see them again. It really has had the worst effect on me. I cant get him out of my head and just keep thinking "what if he just gave it a chance" but I know he doesnt want to. I know I will never meet someone like that again. Im not a youngster with schoolgirl crush, I am 27 and have met alot of people in my life but none who have had the effect on me that he has. I am just so tempted to message him and tell him how I feel. But I really dont think it would make any difference. He has told me that he likes me and is gutted too but he couldnt deal with the distance, and to be fair, we would never really see each other. So how best to deal with this situation? And has anyone else been in a similar position? Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): holy shit dude you have to msg him and tell him how you feel. see its like this, if you dont, your gona loose him anwyay, so you have nothing to loose by telling him. But what you do have to gain by telling him, is HIM.! (providing he feels the same) let me tell you that i was in a similar situation, and my wife wanted a LDR. but i said i cudnt do it for fear of being heartbroken etc. so she expressed something similar to what you said, and it gave me the courage to go through with it, because i knew she was sincere... after living overseas for a year when i came back we got married... so its up to you to tell him, i would! what you got to loose? or you can atlesat say keep in contact etc. that way its safety zone for you. goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): I dont believe in love at first sight there is no such a thing trust me, and I'm very sure that you will find some one else and say the same thing about him.....I think all what you need is another amazing night(doing all the stuff you did with that guy) and you will forget every thing about him....It is not love dont worry....it will go away with time..
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