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writes: I am flat Chested and a 15 yr old, people some times directly say sumin to me, and i feel like i want to die, i also siffer from depression!Why cant i beat these bullies!What shall i do, how can i over come this?Please Please help me, because of this i self harm, i need to stop!
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (3 March 2006):
 Listen to what martini has said as it is honest and from the heart, it will give you strength to see that with time will come the wisdom to know that you are a fantastic and sexy lady and that you have a body every supermodel desires, boobs are over rated and believe me I know as i have a 52dd chest and my shoulders ache, my bra`s are all huge (in fact they are more like parachutes than bras) I cannot buy sexy underwear and blokes who meet me talk only to my chest, (im blonde as well so this does not help).
I ride horses and get blacke eyes with the boob bounce, men stare if I run and not for good reasons, If I was on the titanic hundreds of people would have clung to me because believe me I aint gonna sink!.
So there are some reasons not to have big boobs and believe me there are many many more.
The bullies are jealouse of your trim figure so dont let them get to you, I was bullied for having a big chest at school so you just cannot win.
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reader, juliagulia +, writes (2 March 2006):
 Breasts sometimes grow larger as you get older, so stop worrying about it so much because they may still get bigger. And if some guy makes a comment about them, you should comment on the size of his yoo-hoo and see how he likes it. You have to learn to stick up for yourself. High school can be brutal, but trust me, once it is over, you will hardly remember it or miss it. It isn't worth hurting yourself over. Look how many actresses and supermodels have small breasts! Do you think they are worried about it? If yours don't get bigger with time, and it bothers you that much, you can consider surgery later. But in the meantime, just laugh it off or throw a hurtful comment back to the bullies. If you let them know it bothers you so much, they will never stop and you will keep feeling miserable. You have to just shrug it off and act like you don't care what they think about you. I know it's hard, but you can do it! Confidence is what is truly sexy!!!!!
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reader, shania +, writes (2 March 2006):
 I totally agree with martini (i like his way of thinking) 1st of all...there is more to a woman then the size of her breasts...most men i know,prefer smaller,busted women...these silly little school boys have nothing in their boring little life so they decided to pick on anyone when it suits them.You are still growing and i wouldnt let a bunch of idiots like them get you down.If you feel self conscious about your bust then there are plenty of padded bras that will give you a shape that you want...but i do feel that because you are self harming yourself i would suggest you seek professional help.There are trained therapists who will get through your problems and the way you are feeling right now...go to your doctor who will refer you to see someone,im sure you have lovely qualities that are waiting to come out...dont let a bunch of morons...ruin your life...they are simply not worth it. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2006): I know exactly where you are coming from in terms of feeling flat chested. I started my periods when I was 11 but I didnt have any breasts until I was 16 and believe me they came from out of nowhere one day I had a really really flat chest and then I had these fantastic boobs that literally grew overnight!!
I was picked on for being flat chested by boys mostly but I went from being an A to a D and they are real so basically what I am trying to say is that you are still developing and its at this time that you are most vulnerable but I think the main thing to remember is that although being called names and having things said to you isnt nice at this stage in your life you and all of your peers are going through so many changes that sometimes other young people will say something to you to take the focus off them and their own insecurity bacause everyone is trying to find out who they are.
In terms of the self harming I think you need to see a professional counseller and examine all the underlying issues that are causing you to do this to yourself being flat chested is probably just one issue, keep your chin up and good luck talk to someone and get some help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2006): Talk to your school counsellor about the bullies. Go to the principle if you have to - I totally advise it!During HS, I was a small nerdy looking Chinese boy. The thing is though, I stood up for myself and bullies hated that and threatened to bash my skull in. I told on them. From then on, they would always try to get back at me, and every time, I told on them. Eventually, they stopped in fear of losing their stay at school.As for your flat chest - you're too self-conscious about what others think. I'm thin, pale, and well, weak looking, but like many before me, looks are quite deceiving. I train to ride on road and mountain about 40 to 60 km's per week. I don't give a rat's ass what other people say about me. Heck my girlfriend still poke fun at me for being weak looking - hence some problems we've had before, less now, but still.I too suffered from depression from grade 8 to 12, and randomly nowadays. Took a few months worth of anti-depressants - costs so damn high and not worth the effort!You, young anonymous female poster, must divert your internal willpowers to something else. I found a part of my refuge in martial arts - more specifically in Iaido and Shotoken Karate. I studied the Book of Five Rings, Art of War, and Shogun Scrolls, as well as read Bushido, and dived into historical books. Met some new friends, reunited with childhood ones, and I with some aid from others, turned my life into something more positive. Today, I am an Executive Creator Director at a new media marketing firm. I have bouts of depression and moodiness here and there, as well as anxiety attacks, but I keep them in check by exercising, meeting up with friends, and doing stuff with my gf. If I can do it, I am sure you can also achieve your desires in life. Being flat chested is something that is acceptable. My gf has A size boobies. So what? I love her and everything she is. In fact, I am mind boggled to as why she still chose to stick with me after all we've gone through.Just some ideas for you. 8]
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