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writes:My boyfriend's younger brother told me that he is in love with me and i feel the same, but i dont want to betray my boyfriend by dumping him for his brother. Im 16, his brother is 16, and my boyfriend is 18.. Help! I feel i need to stay with my boyfriend out of loyalty rather than love! Reply to this Question
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (13 August 2008):
 This must be so frustrating for you, but first of all you have to make the relationship between your boyfriend and his brother your priority. You don't want to cause a major rift in their family!
I would say that definately take things as slowly as you can. First of all, try to break up with your boyfriend in the most peaceful way you can - don't let it resort to tears and shouting, and DEFINATELY don't tell him you're breaking up with him because you love his brother. Let him know that you want to remain friends, or at least not enemies - then wait for a good while before you and his brother even think of getting together. You will need to introduce the idea to him gradually so that he doesn't instantly think that you were only with him for his brother.
Whatever you decide to do, I don't recommend staying with your boyfriend. Things will just get worse and you'll both get miserable.
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 yikes, dating within families can be sticky situations. so let's take it a step at a time, yeah? your immediate problem is that you are with your current boyfriend out of loyalty, not love. that is a big no-no, and the obvious correction to that mistake is to break up with him!
when you are single again, for heavens sakes do not jump from one brother to another! just like girls jumping from frat boy to frat boy, girls who jump from older brothers to younger brothers or vice versa are not looked upon too well...
let your old relationship end, leave some time where you are completely single and not seeing anyone, and then if you still feel things for his younger brother, maybe slowly, slowly start testing out the waters there.
good luck!
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