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writes:I've lived with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm 21 and hes 24. He doesn't let me stay out past 9pm. He says it NOT a curfew but it really is. He says he'd feel better if he was there with me and my friends. That we can ALL go out together. When I get off work I go home to him, when I'm off thats "his time." He says we don't spend time together!! I live with him..how much time does he need? I try to explain that to him, that we live together, and I see him ALL the time, and he said "he doesn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to spend time with him." Huh? Weird. He's jealous of other guys. Can't have guy friends, can't talk to them. I do anyways. I'm not interested in having sex with him anymore, or kissing him. Not only do I see him ALL the time, he likes to hug on me ALL the time. He can hug me 20 times within 5 min! He said its cause he loves me! When I push him away he gets mad and hurt. Besides that we live at his Moms place. His parents have financial issues. His Dad has been laid off for along time now. He's going to have to help his parents pay bills, and I may have to pitch in (which I don't want to. I feel I work hard enough) I feel with that situation I'm not going to have a future. He's already 24 and just barely got an 'okay' paying job. I'ts been 3 years. We're not going to be on our own for along time!! I'm leaning towards leaving, having fun, partying, going back to school...Whats your opinion?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Get out he is a serious contol freak !!! And will only get worse , I was in a relationship like this and believe me the older he got the worse he got , he got rid of all my friends he couldnt stand them as he was so insecure he thought they were putting idea's in my head , he had no real friends himself and turned more into a control freak as time went on and even turned physical which he would deny . This is a little insecure boy trying to get you to meet his needs and to have you fully under his control , and you will have to change your number because he wont give up easy , I had to change mine twice to get rid of my freak . Go and enjoy life your still so young dont waste anymore time on an emotionally draining immature spoilt child.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Hi,
I think you know what to do, you sound like you are already ready to jump ship.
Seriously, you only need a little push dont you? What on earth are you still doing with this boy. He is a boy, a little boy who has a little tantrum when he doesnt get his way. But when this little boy grows up he will become a fully fledged control freak. The signs are already there: few friends, trying to tell you what you can and cant do, constant badgering.
I would pack my bags now , why waste any more time? You mention nothing about love, so what are you waiting for?
Oh, and you might have to change your phone numbers.. I expect this little boy may become somewhat of a nuisance when you do dump him.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Oh sweetie, You are 21 I got married at 18 to a control freak after a year of marriage it turned physical. I got divorced at 22 and I partyed and had fun. I really think you need to leave him I believe his controlling ways will only get worse. You are so young and have so much ahead of you. Go back to school and be yourself for a while. Please do not let any man take you away, this will destroy you in the long run. I speak from experience 1 horrible marriage I learned the hard way and I dont want you to. Every moment you waste on this guy is another step into a bad future. dont waste you youth please. I rally hope this helps I hope you can find the strength to do what you need to do for you....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Get out of there. It sounds like you can do a lot better. Go back to school, party it up, make some bad choices that you will probably regret but will teach you a life lesson. If you don't love him don't waste your time or his.
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