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41-50,
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writes:My husband doesn't fight fair and we argue every single day, literally. Everytime I say stuff like, "You don't even love me.." he never says anything. Or he might say, "I care about you alot..." but he almost never steps in to make it known that he loves me.We just got married and I have heard him say numerous times that he has regretted ever marrying me in the first place. He is very insecure and says he never trusted me from the jump. I have never once done anything questionable where he wouldn't trust me. I think it's his guilty conscience because he HAS done things now and in the past that I shouldn't trust him.What do I do? I have relocated with him and I have no way to get home, but also I do love him and he doesn't think I do. He is depressed and I try to stick around long enough to get him help, but he never calls the counselor to make an appointment. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): You have some serious issues to deal with here;
I suggest you contact the counselor and make an appointment; if he does not want to go; YOU GO, discuss the problems and GET proffesional HELP in dealing with this very DIFFICULT SITUATION; don't allow your husband's depression, attitude and behaviour to "drag" you down and get you into a state of depression;
GET HELP in dealing with this from a profesional and if need be; if all else fails and he does not want to be helped; leave him.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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reader, Jia  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Hmm, he sounds like he might have clinical depression or some other mental issue. I think the best thing to do in your situation would be to try to get him help, the sooner, the better. If he doesn't get checked out and helped, he'll bring you down sooner or later and that would really be a shame, considering your age. If you need help, don't be afraid to ask for help from friends or family, even if it's just talking to someone else it can help a lot.
Here are some websites that have useful info about clinical depression:
http://www.uhs.berkeley.edu/lookforthesigns/clinicaldepression.shtml
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/clinical-depression/AN01057
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/Depression_Information/signs.html
Be strong. I wish you the best of luck.
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