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writes:I'm a straight girl and I like porn. My boyfriend does not. He never looks at porn but he said it's okay if I do. But I kind of feel like I need porn and I also feel guilty about it. I mean I really like my boyfriend and I'm definately turned on by him but there are somethings only porn can do. Like if I want to see two guys doing it, realistically I'm not going to be able to see my boyfriend do that. So what choice do I have? Anyway I feel sad either way. My boyfriend says he doesn't mind when I look at porn but I think he just doesn't want to hurt my feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): i dumped a guy because he couldnt quit his porn habit. i love sex, but im not into porn at all... chose him or porn, stop hurting him. it is easy to find a man that will enjoy porn with you, leave the porn-free men for the porn-free women out here
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (24 March 2010):
Lighten up and enjoy! That's why it's there (that and to get you to spend lots of $$$- but stick to the free stuff!).
Learn to enjoy it, if he can participate in it add that to the menu you two enjoy. Rent a DVD, get a blanket & light the fire place and go at it in front of the TV.
No guilt! No matter how you end up enjoying the films!
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reader, purplewasabi  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 I don't think you should feel guilty at all - porn is there to stimulate fantasies that are out of reach, and whether this is in yaoi form, hentai form, etc, it's nothing to be guilty about ! Please don't beat yourself up about this; it's a personal preference of yours, and if your boyfriend cannot appreciate it then you should tell him to be upfront and say so, so that you can discuss it properly.
You could also suggest some of your favourites to him; his dislike may just be down to awkwardness admitting it turns him on. Of course he might indeed just dislike it, but it doesn't hurt to try. (; You could watch it together while giving oral - it might be a fun way to make sex more interesting!
Again, don't feel sad. ^^ Keep watching when and as you like, you really should have nothing to be ashamed of; no-one should hide what turns them on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): Everyone has fantasies. If yours is watching 2 men getting it on together and the only way you are going to see that is by watching porn then go for it. Your boyfriend is telling you it's ok, so what's the problem?? Do you want him to mind??? You've given him the opportunity to tell you how he feels about it, accept it. If you find he was only trying to spare your feelings then it's his problem, he should be as honest with you as you are being with him. You can only take his word in that case. Good for you for being upfront about it, that's all you can do! It's better than hiding it and being deceitful! Then you really would have something to feel guilty about!
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