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writes:Am 15 years old and the guy that am talking to is 17 years old.We've been talking since December.He is a great guy who is always there for me always telling me that everything is going to be okay.But lately I found out that he is the jealous type.I have an account on myspace and he does too, he is always reading my comments that guys send me and that i send them also.We talk every day over the phone and he is always asking me ''Did you talk to any guys''.When we talk and i get another call he asks me who was that how long have you known him for and all i say is he is just a friend. I feel like he doesn't trust me. What should I do??
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (7 March 2007):
 You need to stand up for yourself here. The next time he questions your loyalty say to him "what's all the questions for, don't you trust me?" Go on to tell him calmly that trust is one of the main cornerstones in a relationship, you would hate if he cheated on you and for that very reason you would NEVER to to him what you didn't like done to yourself. Kiss him and reassure him a little and tell him he can trust you 200 per cent.
Just calm his bruised ego a little, he probably thinks you're a great looking girl and very popular and just feels a little insecure in case someone steals you from him. Have confidence, be assertive and give him plenty reassurance that you will always be loyal to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): It is often the case that when one partner is very jealous of the other it is because he is the unfaithful one himself. On other occasions it can also be a confidence issue. If he has low confidence, is unhappy with his weight,appearance etc, then he may doubt your feelings for him and need more reassurance.
A bit of jealousy is harmless and all it usually needs is the right reassurance from you. However, if he is persitant then perhaps you need to weigh up whether or not you can put up with it for any longer.
As far as the Myspace thing is concerned, as long as he is not stealing your password and looking at private messages then he should be allowed to see who your talking too etc and likewise you can do the same to him .
These things can always be worked out between you so long as you communicate and make sure that if there is a problem or one of you feels insecure, that you can sit down and talk it through sensibly. Small sacrifices and trust! Hope this helps.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (7 March 2007):
 A relationship can't survive without trust. You tell him that either he starts to trust you or he will lose you. Simple as.
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