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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been together with my partner for about 11 months and i love him with all my heart and soul! The problem is he's very selfish in alot of ways but i put up with this as i accepted that from the begining . the problem is I've moved away to work so we're now having a long distance relationship. Its tearing me up inside i cant concentrate on my job as im thinking about him all the time, i feel like im going crazy .... the problem is he just doesn't seem bothered, I've tried to tell him how i feel inside but he say's i'll be fine. i'm crying myself to sleep. i should be happy i eventually have my dream job but all i want is my partner by my side.Deep down i dont think my partner cares for me that much and just with me for convenience, i know this because i've found texts and picture msgs on his phone along with emails, But i cant walk away from him i love him to much. I feel like im going to explode inside because i dont know what to do. please help ....
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reader, JnikkiM  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 If someone makes u feel like that just walk away. I know it's hard but it's only been 11 months, what happens when u feel that way 5 years from now and u look at ur time lost. If u let him go and he comes after u, u'll know that he really wants u. Until then ur always going to have those doubts in ur head. The fact that u found text messages and pics in his phone suggests to u he's not faithful and u should not give someone the respect when he's not doing the same.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (7 March 2007):
 Just because he doesn't show his emotion doesn't mean he doesn't feel it. Guys are just silly like that. They find it hard to say how they feel. What I think you need to reassure you is a plan. Is your boyfriend planning to move to wherever you are? If not how often can you see each other? One thing I would say though, if you think he's cheating on you then dump him because however much you love him, if he's cheating he evidently doesn't love you and you deserve to find someone who does. If you're focusing merely on little things though try to give him the benefit of the doubt until you know. And don't beat yourself up for the emotionalness! You're living in a new city, doing a new job, possibly finding it challenging to make new friends and missing your boyfriend but as soon as you get used to all those things time will start sailing by.
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