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I feel frightened when I talk to girls!

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Question - (26 November 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 26 November 2012)
A male South Africa age 30-35, anonymous writes:

When I get closer to girls I feel so frustrated.

and even when I talk to them I feel the same.

I just ignore girls, I loss the confidence to talk girls.

What's wrong with me?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012):

Self confidence, and yours seems to be rock bottom. You've got to believe you can succeed. If you think you can't, you've already failed.

If a girl sees you are nervous, she's gonna get the impression that its her fault, or that's she's doing something wrong to intimidate you, and that's gonna knock her confidence towards you and make her nervous. If it gets to that's point, you may as well say your goodbyes lol.

Its important to remember that women are just human beings like the rest of the population, they don't require any special codes to get into. The main key really is to be yourself (though its harder for some than others), but if she likes you for YOU, then you're half way there.

Don't try too hard to be the person you think a girl might want, because in the end, a persons true colours always come out.

Look at it the way I see it, a girl either likes me for who I am, or she doesn't. Its just a fact of life, not the end of the world.

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A female reader, franny1297 United Kingdom +, writes (26 November 2012):

franny1297 agony auntaawww don't worry us girls find it cute. anyway, try becoming friends with a girl you might know. there's things on the internet that will tell you how.

You have to force yourself to come out of your shell, if you planned on getting married, it will be hard if you don't start getting out there, going out, if a girl is standing next to you, resist it, if a random woman came up to you for directions or something, you will probably feel unconfortable.

Let your muscles loose, chill, if it helps pretend she's not even a girl. think why you must be fustrated, anything, it could be holding you back. im sure your a great person. just try. you probably shy.it happens to me alot to but i realised, the more you are around girls, the easier it will be. it's not much but hoped it helped :P

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