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writes:hiyai constantly feel pressured the whole time to do well in everything and to be cool and popular. Life feels like a competiton of who is happier and has the best life. I know that i should be happy with who i am but im not and constantly thrive to be happier, better, prettier, more confident etc. Has anyone else felt like this? How can i overcome this? Is it all due to a low self-esteem? Reply to this Question
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (2 June 2007):
Dear Low Self- Esteem. First off I would like to say that all parents want the best for their children, but we don't often see our children as growing away from us in many, many ways. We too can be Physically ,Emotionally and Sexually controling. In some cases,I call that Parental- Over-Kill, which often has too many high expectations on the part of us parents. These high expectations can be reasonable or unreasonable,depending upon who's viewpoint we are talking about. Yet, the Deck of parental control is stacked in their favorer. And sad to say, We too can get into our power trips of, Thou Shalls and Thou Shall Nots. A good Self-Esteem must start at home with loving, caring and understanding parents. You need to know, Lots of people carry-over poor Self- Esteems into their own marital-relationships. So in that case, here is what you need to do. If you cannot find Self-Esteen within your own family. Here is the pathway to your Self-Esteem. You like the rest of us have the finest computer between your ears, and what you put into that computer is what you will get out,Garbage in garbage out,so they say. And your self-condemnation is what you are putting into your computer-brain. And a Low Self-Esteem is what you'll be getting out of that wonderful computer between your ears. None of us are born succeses,we must program our mind -computer to become succesful
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): HelloYou haven't mentioned how old you are so I am having a guess you are in your teens. I felt the same way when I was growing up and it wasn't until I finished school and started working that I realized all these things just didn't matter. I would worry about silly things all the time and I wanted everyone to like me etc. All that matters is you do everything you enjoy, have great friends around you that love you for you and not how cool or popular you are and just have fun.
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reader, WeLoveMe +, writes (1 June 2007):
 I know exactly how you feel, i've felt it myself from time to time and i'm sure alot of other people have as well. All i can say is BE YOURSELF! I used to care alot about what other people thought but i realised it just wasn't getting me anywhere. My friends were all fake, i was trying too hard, i was trying to be something i just wasn't. You've yet to find yourself, as do most people this age. Let people accept you for who you are, not what you COULD be. It seems hard to ignore the thoughts of others and criticism but if it's what you believe is right then go for it! Low self-esteem does play a bit part in it, you have to learn to love yourself though be thankful for what you have and what you have accomplished. Smile. x
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reader, Jubbaloo +, writes (1 June 2007):
 It could be lots of things, it could just be the screwed up society we live in. I think you have to look at your friends, what are their attitudes towards this type of things, how materialistic are you family? I do feel for you. Try sitting in a quite place, outside is always nice, write down all the things you want be, draw a picture of who you want to be. Then very carefully BURN it! Then go out and buy a mirror with a wooden frame, write on it all the things the love about yourself, positive things that have been said about you. Then just enjoy life. If you need any more information on this type of thing, PM me
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