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writes: The common story: I'm a girl of 16, and have fallen in love with my best friend, whos also 16. He doesn't like me, I can tell and hes said things to me about it before. Recently we got really drunk and I asked him to kiss me and he refused but after a while gave in. Before this I think it was just a crush but now my feelings for him are so much stronger. I really don't know what to do. If the only answer here is to talk to him, what would I say? And please tell me if theres something else I can do because I really don't want it to have to come to that! Thanks, x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): I know how you feel. I fell in love with my best friend. He would always tell me that we were "JUST FRIENDS" and he broke my heart. He knew how I felt but continued to treat me the same as if I never said anything to him. Like he didn't make it awkward at all. And just recently like a week ago, he admitted it. He would only refer to us as friends with benefits at first and now we're kinda on the line of there or not kinda confusing. He was just afraid of getting hurt or ruining our friendship. We've have hooked up occassionally but its just they are afraid I think. So just show him he needs you. As a best friend and more than that. I never gave up. It took a few months but its all been worth it so far. Just look at the reward in the end. Don't give up if you really love him :]
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reader, gem111  +, writes (1 June 2007):
I'm sorry your hurting like this. Is there someone else this guy may possibly like and thats why he wont be with you do u think ? could it be he isnt ready for a relationship ? i know guys can be difficult sometimes to talk to but maybe you should be totally upfront with him tell him you really care about him and want to be with him and see what he says sweetie. Please feel free to message me if i can be anymore help. good luck.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (1 June 2007):
 Sometimes we all have to accept the fact that not everyone we love loves us in return, its just a part of life. He has been honest with you in how he feels, and when you both kissed you said you were really drunk.
If you really want to put your mind at rest then go all out and tell him how you feel, that way you get a straight answer, and if he really doesen't feel the same at least you know where you stand and can move on.
Good luck x
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reader, Jubbaloo +, writes (1 June 2007):
 OK, How long have you known him? It might just be the fact he really doesn't want to jeopardise what he has with you. I would honestly talk to him about how you feel, tell him, reassure him that you really value his friendship but you don't know if you can carry on like that, ask him to see if he would try a relationship with you. The other things you have to think about is how he feels, is he ready for a relationship? If he genuinely doesnt fancy you,would you want to force him into something? You need to take these things into consideration, he could be gay! I'm not saying that he is, but I know it must be tough, but you have to think about his feelings.
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