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writes:I am 49 years old and very lonely. The last man I dated turned out to be very controlling and was very weird. I haven't dated anyone else, and I'm afraid of internet dating (afraid I will meet another psycho who misrepresents himself).I have just been waiting--hoping that someone nice will come along--but I'm starting to think it isn't going to happen. For one thing, there aren't many guys my age out there. When I was in my 20's, there were plenty. I remember going with one of my friends to a bar to meet people. But now, I wouldn't do that because any man my age who is hanging out in a bar has probably been there since the 70s. I feel like I will just be alone the rest of my life and that makes me really sad.Do you have any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, milkmanadam +, writes (15 June 2010):
you are not alone I feel the same way and I am 46. there are rmen out there. I feel the same way that I will never meet a women again. I hope someday it will happen. hope is all we have. keep your head up because thats what im trying to do. hopeing that it will just happen when your not looking.
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reader, MonicaC +, writes (6 July 2009):
 I think that it is possible for you to meet someone for sure. Your age shouldn't be a factor because you sound like a charming and interesting person. What I would suggest is that you spend some time on YOURSELF. Treat yourself to a new outfit, a manicure, a stylish hair-do, whatever makes you feel good about you. Apart from that, I would suggest that you find some activities that you enjoy doing that involve a group.You could, for instance, join a film club or a book club if that's your thing. You also might consider, as one of the other posters suggested, joining a reputable web-site like eHarmony.com. There are plenty of great single men out there in your age group. You just need to take the plunge and try some new things.I know how you feel about things and I understand it seems a bit difficult, but I really believe that if you love yourself, put your best foot forward and get out there, you will meet someone. I wish you love. xo
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Enjoy your life. Sitting at home doing nothing just makes you unhappy and unlikely to meet anyone but the postman.
Go out, do stuff you enjoy doing. You might not meet anyone but at least you will be having fun. You might make non-romantic friends. Won't give you a warm bed but who knows what a regular friend might introduce you to.
You rarely find love while looking for it. As for internet dating. It is called taking a risk. Sure you might meet a weirdo. So what? You are a mature woman, not a teen girl. Keep your eyes open and life a life worth living.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): I agree with oldersister, you can't wait for something to happen, you have to make it happen. I am close to your age, but not dating at this particular time, but I don't worry about it because when I am ready, I'll make a plan and take some action.Internet dating seems to be the most popular way of meeting someone right now. I know several couples that met this way. The chances of meeting a good guy vs. bad guy are the same as in real life, by that I mean the odds are the same.I think the most important thing at our age is to be more aware of what you want in a man, and then stick to it. Don't fall for a guy because he has almost everything you are looking for...get it right. Pay attention to 'red flags' when dating. I don't feel that I want to go through this 10 more times.Internet dating will get you dates. The more you socialize, the more opportunities will be presented to you. Do volunteer work, go to parties, join a club...just do something! The rest will follow.......
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