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writes:I'm engaged to a woman from Eastern Europe who is over 20 years younger than me. (That's a bad sign, I know). I live in North America, so our relationship is pretty unusual and we hardly ever see each other. I have known her for almost three years. In total, I may have spent six weeks with her, almost always on vacation somewhere in Europe. She cannot come here for a visit due to visa restrictions. Anyway, she has no money and no job, although she has a college degree in business. I have paid for everything at all times. I didn't mind when we were on vacation, taking care of the restaurant bills, hotel bills, shopping. But she seemed like she was happiest when she was spending my money in the shops etc. This bothered me to the point that I have broken up with her twice. In addition, she expects me to pay for daily costs such as her gym fees, telephone bill etc. And she gets me to send money so she can buy birthday gifts for friends. The latest incident was the other day when she told me she wants to go away with her friends for a week and needs money. I have already paid for two similar trips this year alone. So my question boils down to this: Am I crazy to let her get away with this? I feel as if I'm being used and want to end this AGAIN. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): Hi
YES! you are been taken for a ride and an expensive one. The woman is conning you absolutly without a doubt. However your choice, but i would send her her first bill and end the relationship for ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): Hi
YES! you are been taken for a ride and an expensive one. The woman is conning you absolutly without a doubt. However your choice, but i would send her her first bill and end the relationship for ever.
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reader, 14Luv  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 You already have the answer to the question you ask. She is completely insignificant. The more important issue is why you allow anyone to treat you this way. Forget about her and spend some time learning to love yourself. If you don't know you're worth you will always sell yourself short.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Dude, I think it's pretty obvious that she's using your money as an excuse to get what she wants for her personal gain rather than a personal gain between the two of you. But sometimes being in love can hinder the real motives of your partner and so can you. My opinion based on what you said in this thread, dump her ASAP and move on. Btw the part where you said that she's happiest when she's shopping, I think it's a signal from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): You already know it, she is USING you as a Sugar Daddy!
I'd drop her like a rock and tell her to get her own job and pay for her own friends gifts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): You are crazy. This woman is stealing your money and you're allowing it. The alarm bells rang when you said she is 20 years younger than you; she's young enough to be your daughter!
This is quite common thought, but she is using you for money, and you don't even know she's being faithful.
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