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female
age
36-40,
*udy19
writes:Dear All, I have a boyfriend and we have been going out for half a year now. We adore each other and feel that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. He was brought up by his grandparents because his father left them not much after his birth and his mother died. Now he lives with his grandmother, with whom he gets on very well. However, I have always felt that his granny thinks that I came between the two of them and that she is jelous of me. At the beginning she would always phone him and scold him for being away from home for too long and I always feel that she plans programmes for the two of them when I could spend more time with him. She is treating him like a child and she demands that everything happens as she likes. Sometimes even he realises that she is behaving strangely but he is way too grateful to her to do anything about it (which is quite understandable in this situation, but still...).I really feel that this thing is coming between the two of us and I feel really bad when I have to bring up this topic to him. Otherwise we can discuss absolutely anything and solve any problems, but he is just unwilling to face this one. I fear that it is ruining our relationship...
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reader, melschatbox  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Hmmm....you are probably right, there is some jealousy there. On both your part and granny's. Understandable, sure. How to change it?...Most of the changes will have to come from your b/f and how he treats granny and you. He'll have to start asserting himself and letting granny know that you are part of his life and going nowhere.
Good Luck
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