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writes:Right, I have a really Bad Problem which is effecting my social life and my relationships:I Fancy Robbie, Have done for a while, Im not Promiscuous or anything so before you all go calling me a slut etc, I have a Boyfriend called Ben and Im Not happy with Him, I just don't feel right and his friends hate me. And then theres Tom, He Fancys me and we flirt with each other left, right and center (not infront of my boyfriend of course) and Robbie knows I Like him because I Just told him, I Don't want go out with Tom, I want Robbie, But Robbie said he wouldnt go out with me because I Fancy loads of Guys, which In a sense is True, but in away if I didnt he might not say no, and then got really embarresed! everyone tells me Robbie Likes me but He's always on my mind, and I don't want to hurt Ben, Please helpThanks,Chelsea
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 God this is quite a love triangle. I think you should end things with Ben as you say your not happy with him. How does Robbie know that you fancy loads of guys, have you told him? Right next put Tom out of your head as you dont want to go out with him. Now you are left with Robbie who doesnt want to go out with you. Tell Robbie that you dont fancy lots of guys and you only have feelings for him. If he still doesnt want to go out with you let things settle down for a while and then try again. But in the meantime dont go out with anyone else as this will ruin any chance you may have with him. I hope this was of some help
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Aunty t
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reader, berry +, writes (10 March 2007):
 Hi firstly ignore the negative comments You Know your self, secondly if you are not happy get out! Concentrate on your own needs take time to ask yourself what you really want, it seems like you need a little time and space to think clearly also becarefull how much flirting you do as sometimes it can be dangerous. you sound like a nice girl respect yourelf dont lower your self esteem Take care of your sole relax and really think about your future ps action speaks louder than words get out of your unhappy relationship and things should improve for you, take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): Well, i think you need to work out whether this is going to happen again. Presumably you liked Ben to begin with or you wouldnt have gone out with him. If you lie to Robbie and tell him he's the one, or get over your feelings for other people and get with Robbie, you may eventually get into the same situation again : not wanting your boyfriend and lusting after someone else.
If that's the case theres not much point going after Robbie. However, if you think Robbie is The One, go for it. Break up with your Bf sensitively and clear everything with Robbie.
Also, does Tom realise you aren't serious? you may be going to hurt him too...
Hope that helps
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reader, berry +, writes (10 March 2007):
hi you seem a wee confused, my advice would be to get out of the current relationship your in if you are not happy honey. You need to try and raise your self-esteem try to give your self some time & space to work your feelings through and assess what you really want out of life. ps your not a slut erase these negative comments right away! it sounds like you are an attractive girl and may have formed a habit of flirting because you are not happy in your current relationship and seeking effection. dont run into danger take stock av self worth as sometimes flirting can be a dangerous game to play and you could be miss read. focus on what you want from your current realationship, if you want to end it go a head, than may be everything else will slot in to place in time. cheer up Focus on your needs xx
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