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writes:Hi,I am 23-year-old single guy who has been struggling to find a great girl for myself. I joined a dating site that is strictly for college students and alumni. This past week, I found two girls and started chatting with them. After we traded a few messages, one deleted her profile suddenly without any kind of explanation whatsoever. Today, the same thing has happened with the other girl. This second girl, also after trading a few messages with me, replied to my previous question. She then sent me another message, saying she had to get off of the dating site for a while and that it was nice talking to me. And finally, another girl I messaged just deleted her profile without any kind of communication between us other than my message to her.I have to ask, what is going on? Is somebody playing tricks on me, or something? I'm a good-looking guy with a nice picture up, and not creepy or anything like that. I can't imagine whether or not it was me, or...I have no idea. It's mind-boggling to me.Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (28 December 2012):
 No one on here can tell you exactly why..it could be a multitude of things...
1. Something you said to these girls to turn them off.
2. Maybe they weren't interested and blocked you from messaging them. If that's an option.
3. They deleted their accounts because they found a boyfriend.
4. They were bored with the site and deleted their accounts.
Perhaps you should try a different site or try to meet women through class, or other friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): I have at times joined a dating site and chatted to some guys, but found that I didn't really like the site, or that that particular dating site just wasn't for me, so I deleted the account without explanation. It may just be that, I have found on dating sites it happens. Maybe they met someone whom they really clicked with and are now in a relationship, or maybe they have just found they don't have they time or inclination to use it anymore. I wouldn't worry about it, just continue chatting to people until you find the right one. Good Luck :)
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reader, Icequeen1  +, writes (27 December 2012):
It probably has nothing to do with you. I have, on few occasions, deleted my profile from dating sites simply because I canðt be bothered, the time isn't right or other things are going on in my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012): It sounds to me like someone IS playing a trick on you. There really isn't any other explanation as to why this would happen. Do you have an ex girlfriend isn't quite over you? Is there anyone else you know that might have a reason to mess with you?
I ask, because I once had someone set up a dating site, using my actual photos, and giving out my phone number to every guy they chatted with on the account. I never did find out who it was, but it was obviously someone I knew, because they knew my phone number, and had access to my photos which are all set to private on facebook. So definitely don't rule out the possibility of someone setting up numerous fake accounts to talk to you through. There are some crazy people out there who have way too much time on their hands!
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reader, elise22  +, writes (27 December 2012):
 I think these girls are just not that serious about meeting someone through the internet. Before I started dating in real life, I used to sometimes get an account on a dating site just for fun, to chat with these guys and get a little attention (because I was really shy) and that made me feel good. Stupid, I know, but after sending and receiving some messages I'd had enough and just deleted my account, no explanation whatsoever. I don't think it's you, I think it's internet dating.
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