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writes: I am 20 and I don't know if I will ever get a girlfriend. I ejaculate quickly and there is nothing I can do about it! I don't know what to do anymore I am going crazy! Girls all want sex, but that is nothing I could ever give to a girl! It sucks and is ruining my life! When I masturbate I can do it for a few minutes but that is it and I always feel on the brink of blowing it! My family and friends make fun of me because I never have a girlfriend and I'm so unconfident because of it. I don't even know why I am writing this now, there's really no hope.
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reader, helpjayne  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 you need to train yourself into lasting longer masturbate and before you cum stop and then start again after a while have a little self control it'l give you a much intense orgasm aswell.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 Side note to the aunts: Who else is scared of Baddog's picture?
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 Relax, there is plenty of hope. You have a tongue presumably? Assuming the answer is yes then use it. Your dick shouldn't even on the field of play until she has cum a couple of times. There are excellent posts on here about what you should be doing with your tongue. Read and apply.
If you get your tongue work right then you will have a happy girl even if your dick only lasts a few minutes before you pop. But here is the magic of it, the fact that you have knocked this girls socks off by giving her a great going over with your tongue will make you feel relaxed and confident and you will last much longer.
If you think that you are in with a shot with a girl then obviously masturbate a few hours before to let a bit of steam out of the system.
Wait another 20 years and then you'll be complaining that it takes you 45 minutes to cum and you'll wish that you have a little bit of the problem that you have now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): Premature Ejaculation Anxiety has been blamed on the problem of premature ejaculation. A man worrying about performing in a studly manner, a woman that is to demanding in bed, stress at work or at home will affect a man’s performance in bed. Very rarely is premature ejaculation a health issue, more of a mind-over-matter problem. Premature ejaculation is not a form of impotence. Impotence can be controlled with drugs and other treatment IF there isn’t a major underlying health issue causing the problem such as uncontrolled diabetes, or a hormone disorder.While there is no known cure for premature ejaculation, below are a few treatment techniques that can help prolong intimacy.Squeeze TechniqueThe woman takes her hand, and gently strokes her partner to the point of ejaculation. Then she takes his penis behind the glans, her thumb at the bottom of his penis, her first and second fingers at the top, exerting gentle pressure by squeezing to keep the erection in check. Then, still holding on, she straddles her partner, releasing her hold of his penis and the man ejaculates inside her. This takes discipline and practice and rarely can be mastered on the first try. An unpleasant sensation awaits any man who ejaculates while his penis is being firmly pressed together.CondomsCondoms placed two at a time over the head of the penis will help to deaden the sensation of intercourse, thus prolonging the time of intimacy.Multiple ActsPerforming sex several times in one night allows the man to hold on to his latter erections longer and keeps the woman in anticipation. Some men will masturbate in private prior to sex, while others will ask their partners to perform a hand job.The Stop and Start TechniqueThe partner strokes her man to the point to ejaculation. However prior to actually ejaculating, the man stops his partner’s activity and lies still attempting to relax. When his penis goes flaccid, the routine is repeated. You can compare this to bladder exercises that women are assigned by ter doctor as they get older and the bladder loses its firmness. You can straddle your man, and using this same inner squeeze technique by constricting and relaxing your muscles you can bring your man to the point of ejaculation. This also takes time and practice to master. Sex TherapyHuman sexuality if freely explored with the help of a licensed sex therapist can free-up inhibitions. Certified sex therapists are mental health professionals highly trained in the field of sexual orientation. Using cognitive behavior techniques, talk therapy and exercises in sexual expression and sexual priorities, a qualified sex therapist can help the man understand his sexual disorder and over time prevent premature ejaculation from occurring. The sessions can be expensive. Only in rare cases are the sessions covered by medical insurance. Be sure that your sex therapist is licensed. Their training is specific and extensive designed to relax and put a man quickly at ease both with himself and his sexuality. hope this helped. :)there is lots of info on the web
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reader, micsmith +, writes (13 November 2008):
hey I have the same problem when i masterbate i can do it in minutes but when i have sex it takes longer a lot longer so you may have nothing to worry about
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reader, InterCntlCHmp  +, writes (13 November 2008):
Buddy don't worry about it; tons of guys cum quickly. In fact most guys probably only last a few minutes. You are young and as you get more experience you will understand your body more and you will be able to control it more.
In the mean time there are things that you can do to prolong ejaculation. First thing is try to stop worrying about it. While it's true girls love and want sex; a girl friend will like you for who you are and how to treat her not just sex alone.
When you masturbate don't use pornography. Use lubrication and relax and take some time to take it slow. Focus a lot on how your feeling before you orgasm maintain that feeling for as long as possible. The more you understand your body's reactions to stimulation you can begin to control it.
When you are with your girlfriend spend a lot more time on foreplay. I know as guys we have the ultimate goal of getting in there; but your specific goal here is to prolong the act; besides girls take much longer than us to warm up so they appreciate foreplay more; so spend a little more time and second and third base. It's really win win.
When you are actually having sex try switching positions many times; again this will help you and she will also appreciate this.
If you still blow to early don't sweat it. Tell the girl how much she turns you on you just couldn't control yourself. Then continue to spend time pleasuring her and you will be hard again in no time. You will find it will most likely take you a lot longer to blow your load the second time and she will think you are a stud for going round two and also for being sensitive to her needs and not just falling asleep. Again win win here.
The only thing that concerns me about your post and should probably concern you is that your family puts you down for this. That shits messed up and I would also be pissed if I where you. con front them and tell them how your feel be respectful and honest and hold your ground.
Hope this helps.
Good luck.
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