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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half and we have a very good relationship.I studied at university for 6 years while he started working right out of high school. At the moment I earn more than him and I think things will stay like that for a long time.He has joked with me that I'm the breadwinner and sometimes even said that I wear the pants. Although he's never been negative about it, woud you say that this affect him a lot?We don't live together at the moment and when we do go out we always take turns in paying for dinner, movie tickets, etc. We've also talked about living together and he says that we'll contribute equally even though one of us earns more than the other.What I want to know, especially from the guys out there, is whether this difference in salaries (me earning more) is going to affect our relationship long term. I don't mind it but will he resent me for it one day?Thanks
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reader, honestman  +, writes (6 April 2011):
No!He won't resent it , unless you make him feel bad about earning less.Some woman, don't ask me why, brag to their less earning male counterparts about their income. This is a dealbreaker. It is ok to earn more than your man, but not to loose your feet from the floor. Please, if you love this man, don't you ever even joke about earning more than him. Let him joke about it, but don't humiliate him or anything.Actually, guys, at least like me, would feel flattered that our female counterparts earn more than us. That means that the weight of the entire relationship's economy won't lay only over a man. You know, being the only bread winner it is a big responsibility, and puts great stress over the bread winner. If you both work, then it is for sure that things will be well for you both. It doesn't matter how big the difference of incomes are.Also, don't let such difference become an issue ever, or you'll make this guy run away from you.
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