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writes: My ex and I broke up several months ago. He was abusive during the relationship and extremely jealous. He had all the control in the relationship. I was so in love with him (he was my first boyfriend) that I endured it because most of the time he was very sweet anyway, and we had so much in common I truly believed he was my soulmate.He won't get over or leave me alone. He constantly buys me flowers and comes unexpectedly to drop 'em by. He's constantly telling me he loves me via SMS or e-mail. And sometimes he gets jealous if he somehow finds out that I've been meeting new guys.I hate seeing him like this. I wish him happiness, not suffering, so I wish he would just move on and be happy. He supposedly understands that I won't get back together with him, never again, but he still says that he can't help being in love with me and likes showing me.I tell him that if he loves me he should stop being so selfish and respect my wishes and leave me alone, but he says he could say that the selfishness goes both ways, and that I'm selfish to only think of what I want.I don't know what to do, I hate seeing him suffer, I feel sorry for him he seems to have mental issues... the worst part is if I even go out with a guy friend (not even as a date) and someone tells him then he plays victim and says he's so hurt and blah blah. I can't imagine what would happen if I started going out with someone else... he would probably kill himself or something.He just tells me to ignore him, but that he will continue "fighting" for my love... I'm sick of this, I wish he'd just get a new girlfriend and that he was happy. I just want some peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): thts sad to know, but i would suggest u to change ur phone number n ignore him as much as u can. i have been in d same situation before. they jus say they will kill themself n bla n bla but they really wont do tht. just ignore him in every ways n if things get worst get a restraining order. in my case, i did take a restraining order against him n everything is better now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): restraining order, let ur famly n friends know ... he is dangerous...he will hurt u
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 October 2010):
I would strongly suggest getting a restraining order. Talk to the police about his harassment, and also tell them he claimed he'd kill himself (they might take that more seriously). Also, look at changing e-mails and phone numbers.
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