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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months, but since we got back to school from the summer holidays things have gone rocky and now, we're both wanting space. Even though I love him I still want space because I'm sick and tired of being depressed that he doesn't want to be round me. He's thankful that I've realised that he wants space and that somehow he feels closer to me. But the thing is, I'm scared he's going to cheat on me, even though he's promised he'll never cheat on me he's been getting close to my enemy. I know its my paranoia smothering me but it's constantly bugging me, and I can't confront him because if I accuse him of cheating he's going to end it (my paranoia was one of the reasons why he wants space). I love hanging out with my friends at school but at breaks when I see him it's killing me, I want to be there but then I want him to miss me so badly. So this week I'm planning on not talking to him, no texting or talking on facebook or other social websites. Am I doing the right thing to make him miss me? Or am I just going to make him think I'm no longer interested in him and that he'll do something bad (He said he'd do something if I did). Please, I need help, we're only 15 but yet believe we've found our soul mate in each other. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too. Should I keep on doing this? Or will it tear us apart?
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Well it's good that you're giving him some space because if you didn't it would most likely push him away even more.
I don't think it's a good idea to not talk to him at all because that might make him think that you're ignoring him or mad at him. Instead I think you should just send him a message in the evening, ask him how he's doing and how his day was, if he replies to it reply back and say good night, that way you've kept in contact with him without smothering him. Well and if he doesn't reply then I wouldn't get in contact until he does.
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reader, PhasiaMilano666  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 If he truly loves you, he isn't creating a wall between you for no reason. It could be that he wants to get the hang of school and get his grades going without worrying about a girlfriend. It may also be that he is falling for someone else. As you said, "my enemy." This happened to me a while back...I noticed that a boy was into me, and he told me he was, but talking on Facebook just wasn't enough, and he got close with a girl he saw outside of school. I noticed that he was becoming distant because his replies to my messages were usually "k" or "yeah." He then stopped talking to me, and told me to give him some space. A few days later he and the girl went out. I would suggest just letting him live, and see how it unfolds. If he's into someone else, he's trying to let you know. Otherwise, just let things play out, and he may come back to you in no time. You can't judge his actions just yet. As of now it's his decision for what he wants to do; just to prepare you, his decisions won't always be in your favor, and there are other people out there.
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