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writes:i met my girlfriend online about 6 months ago and we live 3000 miles away from eachother. she flew out for a week to meet me and ended up staying 2. a month later she moved here and in with me and everything was fine for a few weeks. she started getting on instant messengers and cybering guys and sending them videos of her naked etc... i had no idea of this at the time untill she recieved flowers in the mail and claimed they were from her sister back home. i found the card that came with them and found out they were froma 19 year old army guy in iraq (im 24 shes 26) so i keylogged the computer and found out what she was up to. i confronted her about it and she said that its just fun and thats all but i felt cheated on. she promised to stop and i promised to stop watching her. then she started getting on the computer at every chance she had and stopped being affectionate to me almost completely. she was in the bathroom and her phone rang and i saw a guys name and number. when she got out she told me it was a private number. i toldher i dont trust her and dont get it and that she needs to make a choice and things got better....for about 12 hours...then back to the instant messengers and webcam. she leaves sometimes to hang out with a girl she met and never ivites me or anything just kisses me and leaves which ois fine because i keep in contact. i came home in the middle of my shift to see her and she wont even sit with me for the few minutes i was there because shes messaging the same guys. i told her its not working and to go. did i do the right thing? she says she loves me and hasnt said thatto anybody else but the way she talks to these guys hurts to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): I'd say you did the right thing and you should consider yourself lucky..you got rid of her. She was a female who casted her net wide and played 'sexual games' online, with other men. She was an untrustworthy, self-involved person. Good thing she was sloppy about covering up her inappropriate behaviors, because if she was smarter, she could've concealed her intentions and goings-on, a lot better and you, my friend, might have ended up getting married to her. Now, that would've been a financial disaster for you!
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 you sure did the right thing..!!and she sure doesn't love you cause if she did she would've never done something like that...
you live very far away from each other..so maybe she took that for her benefit ..let her go:) you'll find someone better in no time:)cause you can consider what she did as cheating:)
take care XXXXX
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reader, southernbaby +, writes (8 September 2008):
let that fish go. im not one to believe in online dating, but that's beside the point. the way things sound to me is that everything she's done for you she's doing for everyone else. so yes, it's a form of cheating, if she even thinks of what she has/had with you as a relationship. don't worry, you're doing the right thing. don't second guess a bad feeling.
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