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*miley102377
writes:I am hooking up with a guy who does not perform oral sex. He says it is reserved for his wife-to-be or if he is drunk. He has done it before, but not to me. He says it is a cultural thing for him, that the boys he grew up with are all the same. So, is he just blowing shit up my ass or is there something else going on??
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reader, Richie Rich +, writes (25 September 2008):
NO it is not a culture thing. He just doesn't want to do it. Think about it how many times have you done it and had it done to you. Was there ever a problem. NO. If he has done it once which is what you said he has then it shouldn't matter. I once had a friend and she loved it. Our second date we were doing it and as I said she always loved it. Why should you be any different. If he won't the go elsewhere. Plenty of fish in the sea.
In the same token I would have to agree with Lexilou about I just wouldnt let anyone down there....it would have to be someone that I trusted/liked alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): The cultural thing rings a bell with me. I once new a West Indian guy, black, and he said he would never consider going down on a woman "We just don't do that." However, Years later, his widow confided that this was indeed true but she persuaded him by saying, "But WE do!" and damn well made sure she eventually achieved satisfaction in the way she wanted!
Hope this helps, godd luck!
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 It could just be he doesnt like it. I have only let a few people in that area for two reasons. One was to do with a very bad sexual experience when I was younger, it would be called date rape now, and another reason for me is that I dont think oral is something you do every time you have sex. I have only let guys I love perform it on me and only performed it to guys I was in a relationship with. This trend of young girls giving oral long before they have sex to every tom dick or harry (pardon the pun) absolutely baffles me. So it could be a generational or cultural thing.
If your relationship moves up a level maybe he will change his mind but for now let it go as it will only make it worse if you pressure him to do something he doesnt want to x
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