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writes:I´m going to be a sohpmore girl in high school. In eigth grade I breifly dated a seventh grader. I was severly depressed at the time and struggling with my orientation. We ended up dating for only two days befre I cut it off. She says she holds no resentment. She also doesnt know why i dumped her. For freshman year I went to a private school pretty far away from the public district she went to. We didnt talk much but still kept in touch. Recently, we started talking more as she applyeed to many private school. The more we talked, the more i liked her. We are fairly close friends now, i don´t want to risk screwing that up! She just got accepted to my school for her freshman year and wants to go to my school. Another reason why i´m reluctant to ell her my feelings. I really like her but im scared of what shell say causeI dumped her. I also don´t want to screw up our friendship, especially if she´s coming to my tiny school (115 kids in grades 7-12) next year! What should i do?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (21 July 2011):
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Moo's Mum and bernard, thanks a bunch! I apologized and we are now together!
@Drat001, thanks but i don't go to a Christian school, I go to a really open private school. Even though there are very few gay kids, no one is homophobic. And even though we are dating, our school is very intense and we both agree it comes first.
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reader, Drat001  +, writes (10 July 2011):
That's a tough one. I've been there, at a private (christian) school, in love with another girl, and all. My advice is, if it is a christian school, don't openly date. In fact, don't date at all. Just be really good friends. Most all of the people I knew in junior high and high school aren't together any more. However, several people I knew who were really good friends in school are now married.
School is a really tough time. The main focus of your life during those years, at least theoretically, is supposed to be learning the things that will help you succeed in later life. If you put all your effort into dating instead of your education, you or she or both of you could lose those scholarship(s), and you might miss out learning some really important things because your mind(s) were otherwise occupied. So, my suggestion is to be her friend, as good a friend as possible, and if you end up together after school, yippy! And, if you end up best of friends for life but not in a relationship, would you rather push dating on her now and end up losing out on both the frienship and the relationship? It's best to be friends now and let whatever else happens later, well, just happen.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (9 July 2011):
I think the best thing to do would be to be really honest with her and tell her what you have told us. Admit that you were a bitch in the past and that you have changed and really want to make it work with her.
All the best.
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