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writes:Hello, I have an important question.I met this guy (I knew who he was beforehand though) at church and immediately developed a crush on him. This guy is perfect, and I mean it. He has the best taste in music, books, and is a real man of God. My problem is that anytime he's around, I freeze up and can't talk. Half the time I end up leaving without even saying a word to him and the other half, I've made the most mundane and unimportant conversation.We have a lot in common but when he's around, I can't even think to bring it up and make a good converstion. He just makes me so nervous and all I can think about is how he probably doesn't want to talk to me.I'm really bummed that I can't seem to talk enough to progress from where we are to closter friends or even dating. Please help me because I already feel like it's too late but want to try. I really appreciate it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 That is just your nerves because you have a crush on him, believe me that is completely normal. You just need to gain some confidence and try to practice what you would say to him. I know it might sound silly but believe me it can help if you are prepared. Sit in front of a mirror and talk as if you would be talking to him. Practice questions that you could ask him and answers that you could give him. This will give you a bit more confidence when you see him next. At least you will be prepared a little and hopefully a bit more confident. Try not to over think it or else you will lose your nerve, just go up yo him and start talking it will get easier in time believe me. Good Luck.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 I think you need to stop putting so much pressure on yourself. You need to build up your confidence around him. I think you should start off by just giving him the odd smile and saying hello to him whenever you see him. You don't need to erupt into conversation every time you see him. Just be friendly and polite with him and I'm sure he'll be friendly back. Once you feel more confident, then you can try to make conversation with him and talk to him a little more.
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reader, Jay_xxxxx +, writes (9 July 2011):
 Try inviting him into a conversation with your parents or your friends, this will help you gain confidence to talk to him more as he will not be waiting on what you are going to say and will be able to talk to every one, you'll be able to think about what you are going to say before you say it then
And you'll learn a lot more as people may ask him questions which you wouldn't have thought about asking, and using that information you found out about you will have the confidence to talk with out freezing up or saying something completely silly. And this will hopefully give you the confidence to ask him out if you find that you really like him.
Hope I helped and I hope you get over this little freezing problem of yours and get to talk to him :)
Jay x x x
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