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writes:Here it goes. Tonight I pretty much figured out something I would consider it a small, but on-going problem that I need to correct for the simple fact that I dont want to treat my girlfriend in the manner I do. Background info: I am 24 years old, we have been dating a little over a year. Things started out great but 6 months ago she started a very demanding schedule where I only see her once maybe twice a week. When I do see her shes very tired and unwilling to show affection towards me. ( due to her being tired) Not to sound like a jerk, but I do treat her like a princess and thats not a problem for me, because I think she deserves it. Here is the problem: I put alot of effort into making her happy as well as sacraficing alot. She on the other hand is pretty limited on that end, and I know it is only because she is stressed from her schedule. I am making a strong effort in accepting that this schedule will be over in 6 months. But unfortnately I find myself being spiteful towards her , by making jerk comments just to get a rise out of her.I know thats wrong and I hate myself after I do it and usually apologize after I recognize what I did. Talking to her about my frustrations doesnt seem to be changing my spiteful attitude at times. Question: Any advice on a better route to help me deal with my spiteful actions? Reply to this Question
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reader, CJH  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 You need to learn to bite your tongue - thats all there is to it really.From what youve said, its obviously difficult for you to maintain this relationship but the light at the end of the tunnel is the fact that in six months things will be different.Your outburts not only affect your "princess" of a girlfriend, they also leave you with a serious guilt complex.You know its wrong and you know the consequences - you may even end up driving the girl away if you think about it. The last thing she need on top of the stress shes already under is to feel bullied by you isnt it?So the simple answer? If you want to keep her and you want to like yourself, stop and think before you open your mouth. Concentrate on this for a while and you should be able to manage it shouldnt you?
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