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writes: My Girlfriend and I have been together for a year, we really love eachother. I am quiet sexually experienced, she on the other hand was a virgin before me. I ask her if she feels like she needs to find out what sex with other ppl is like, she says no. We do plan a future toegther, however, I dont want to lose her simply because of curiosity of what its like with others.Would it be wrong of me to say to her that as long as she is honest with me, tells me beforehand, and uses protection, if she is curious she can find out, as it would silly to throw this love away down to a curiosity? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): she has lost her virginity with you for a reason, your very sweet to offer her the option, SOME MIGHT SAY YOUR STUPID, i no my b/f would kill me even if i thought of it!!!
If she is happy with you then do not stir ideas into her head!!!!! curiousity killed the cat!!!!
Sexually, she can experience everything with you, if SHE decides that she wants to explore her options, you have to think about whether u r ok with her sleeping with another guy(s)which i would have to assume is a big NO NO!!!! and if your not and she persists then you might have to review the relationship!!! i personally think that you are insecure, remember (some) women are not like men, they are more emotional, the fact that she gave her virginity to you she is not only emotionally bound to you but also she will never forget you, cos you are her 1st. Take pleasure in exploring new positions, new techniques, just because you have experience does not mean you have experienced everything. Stop dwelling on what could be and focus on what you have!!!!!
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reader, Serinity  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Gosh NO! I can tell you from experience. Trust me, just because she was a virgin when you met does not mean that she needs to experience sex with someone else. This will only complicate things and she will begin to negotiate her feelings for you. When my 1st husband pushed this on me, I wondered why? Was I not enough for him? Did he have some sick motive behind it? Why would he even want another man to touch me if he loved me as he said he did? And don't you think that you might begin to question her commitment to being faithful to you? Please don't go that route, you will only complicate things and compromise your relationship. If she declined the offer, be thankful and don't try to force anything on her. I would let this go and never mention it again. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): If you realy love this girl dont ever encourage her to seek sex with another man to satisfy "curiosity", because if she does try it with another guy and likes it, then woundn't it only be natural for her to be "curious" about any man she then found attractive, as it stands Im sure she probobly does fancy some other men, but she's showing restraint because of her love and respect for you, and you return that respect by telling her you dont mind her having sex with other men !! Makes me wonder a little bit who's more "curious"......PogMoHon
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reader, superbunny  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Seems like a very "generous" thing to do, if you ask me! :] Some guys don't like knowing their girls are doing that - but as long as you're happy with it and you tell her and she IS honest with you, then I guess there's nothing wrong with it. :] x
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