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writes:I am the one who posted pregnant by my old flame I am pregnant by my old flame and have a boyfriend, we have been together for 5 years and its been rocky, I have messed with my old flame two times, I am pregnant and have not told my BF, he is very violent and I can't tell him he is a much better man than my old flame parent wise, we have a daughter already and I don't believe in abortion. I don't know what to do that's why I suggested in not saying nothing and to let him think the child is his, why should the baby suffer for my mistake.
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reader, weparley +, writes (25 March 2010):
I can't believe a person would be SO LOW to carry on disception like you're doing. I can't believe you have no honesty to just come forward and TELL THE TRUTH.
It's going to hurt you unbron child more than ANYBODY else.
Just come clean... have some integrity for Christ sake.
stop living a lie
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (25 March 2010):
 when you live in sin this is what happens, get saved give your life to christ and ask God for a solution cause none of yours will turn out good
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): You do not have the right to commit fraud against both of these men. Your old flame has a right to know that he is a father and your boyfriend has a right to know that he is not the father AND that you are cheating on him.
In the not too distant future DNA/Paternity tests will be very cheap and available in every drugstore. Your boyfriend might find out that way or some other way but sooner or later he will.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 I can understand your decision. You will have to carry this secret to the grave with you .
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Ok-so current BF is "very violent" but "he is a much better man parent wise than my old flame"? Is that right? To answer your question - don't say anything to current BF. Your thinking in this manner is correct "why should the baby suffer for my mistakes?" However sweetie I have few questions for you and may be able to offer you some insight. Please send me a private post if you are interested in what I have to tell you about your current situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): But why should you allow this boyfriend of yours to continue to love you when he doesn't know the truth? I mean, I get why you are keeping this from him, but he deserves the right to know. And what happens when the baby is born? Are you going to let the baby live in a lie? I think, this lie will continue to grow worse if you keep holding it a secret. Plus, have you thought about your old flame? He is the FATHER of your child. He also deserves to know that the child you are carrying is his! This is the baby he fathered you shouldn't drag your boyfriend into a parenting life that he might have not wanted. Please consider this.
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