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writes:Hello,I started university two weeks ago. There is a girl on my course who I quite like. We hang around together a fair bit, and I think our friendship is growing. However, I find myself feeling quite attracted to her. She's pretty cute, she has a sweet sense of humour and is fun to be around.Trouble is, I don't really want to suggest dating her. She has a boyfriend. And even though she has revealed that she isn't happy with him, I certainly wouldn't use that as an excuse to try anything with her. I'm just considering a time where she might break up with him. I worry about our friendship. We are on our course for 2 years, and if she didn't feel the same way about me that could make things awkward between us both.What can you suggest?
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (16 October 2008):
 I think you have a very sensible head on your shoulders there, not getting into anything all the time she is with someone.
And until she is single, its way better to leave it that way. If she really isn't that happy with him, she's too young to be staying with him isn't she.
As for being on the same course, thats the risk you take if you do end up dating. I ended up having two children with someone I met at work! so I'm not anti things like that obviously! lol
Good luck.
C xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): before you suggest any thing you should talk to her and ask her why she isn't happy with her currant boyfriend the best friend you can be is support her try and help. Even though it is a possibility that they will breakup and something will happen don't look into it to much the fact is you are setting yourself up for uncertainty which could lead to disappointment. even though she doesn't like the currant relationship it doesn't mean she is looking for someone else. maybe instead of suggesting that you date suggest that she considers other options (don't hint towards yourself or anything though) i just mean i you say "hey you wanna go out some time" it will be totally out of the blue and she probably doesn't even know you have feelings for her. if she breaks up with her boyfriend and sees some other people she might realize that your what she is looking for but just wait because i doubt she has even considered it yet. Do you know her sexual orientation this might help because there is no point going after someone who isn't interested. in the meantime keep great friends but look for someone else to pursue a relationship with you might find someone better who doesn't already have a boyfriend,
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reader, musics_muse  +, writes (16 October 2008):
my suggestion is to just be there for her...like you said, you wouldn't want to put her in an awkward position. (just the fact that you're not trying to take advantage of her in her vulnerable state shows that you care about her.) in the meantime don't hold your breath. look around and see what your other options are. you deserve to be happy. maybe when the time is right you two will eventually come together. but youre still young, you still have years ahead of you and plenty of experiences your way. don't sell yourself short of experiencing new things and forming new relationships.
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