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writes:I am 21 year old and have been living on my own for years. I currently live in a amall apartment with boyfriend, our roomate, and my boyfriends father. The problem is I want his dad to leave!He's been staying here off and on for a month! He stinks because he never bathes, he doesnt have a job and isnt trying very hard to get one. He just sits around and smokes and messes with his laptop all day! He rarely helps out with anything, and I can't get my boyfriend to get him to leave! My boyfriend says he feels bad because it's his dad, but it's not our job to take care of him! My boyfriends mother agree with me and even rfefuses to help us with anything until he leaves. I'm almost at my wits end having this lazy, gross person here 24/7. He even sleeps on the floorunderneath our dining room table! Now, I'm a good person willing to help out, but weeks later I find myself SUPER frustrated.Even worse, his father never even really tried to contact him until he found out we got the apartment. After less than one month of moving in he showed up on our doorstep, asking for help. He hasn't left for more than 24 since. He is nothing but a financial and emotional leech and I want him out! There are plenty of shelters in the area or other places he can go.Me and my borfiend have been fighting about this and it got really bad this morning, because I was pissed his dad was STILL here, when my bf shot back 'well he's only been here 2 weeks'...to which I reminded him it's only been 2 weks since the last time he left! It's puting a strain on my household and relationship having his father here. What can I do? I don't want to step on any toes but I can't stand it anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much. I had a talk with him today and I think things got through because he left tonight...he's still only sleeping in his truck in the parking lot, but it's a start!
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reader, type4help  +, writes (20 September 2008):
 i wouldn't worry about stepping on anybodys toes, it;s your place, and what you say goes. nobody wants a smelly man living in their place and certianly not sleeping under the dinging table! i would have him out. and tell him to take his slobby ways with him!
good luck!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): I agree. Tell him it's either you or his dad. There's no in-between grey area.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 September 2008):
I think this has gone beyond the point of stepping on toes.
You need to tell this man that you want him out of your house and if he refuses to go then call the police.
He's not paying rent, he's treating the place like a hotel and making your life and your housemate's life miserable.
You need to tell your boyfriend to get rid of his dad or he can move out too.
Take serious action.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo he ISN'T! But I am actually in love with my boyfriend, and we've been talking about getting engaged and moving out of state in the next year or two, which will NEVER happen if his dad stays here! My boyfriend agrees he should leave, but wont push him out the door! What can I say to my boyfriend to make him man up and get it over with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): I don't know how practical it would be for you, but maybe you and your roommate could find yourselves another apartment and leave your b/f and his dad to get on with it?
The situation must be quite intolerable for you. I don't suppose your roommate is too impressed either.
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