A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi my husband of three years, has a daughter by a previous relationship and hasnt seen her for 5 years. The Ex now says its ok for him to see her. I am ok with that, but in the 3 years we've been married he has worked almost every week 6 or 7 days a week, any free time is usually spent with his mates. Our daughter who is almost 4 spends no quality time with him. Yet now cos he can see child number 1 he is taking days off work to spend time with her, took her and the ex out for dinner. He has started to buy himself loads of new clothes, he plans another day off next week to see this daughter. Yet our daughter spends no quality time with him, he says its cos he sees her every day. I just want him to give our daughter the same consideration. We just seem to argue as he says he isnt going to run off with his ex?? I dont want to spoil his new found fun with his long lost daughter but how do I get him to see our daughter needs quality time too???
View related questions:
his ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Exactly, plan something to where he can take out both daughters..Like going to a kid friendly place..In America we have Chucky Cheese with arcade games, skiball, jumping into that pit of plastic balls, stuffing your face with pizza, they can collect tickets and get prizes. Maybe going to a theme park. That way your daughter gets to know her half sister and both girls can bond with their father. A win win situation.
A
male
reader, dirtball +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Right now he's trying to make up for lost time. Instead of forcing him to plan something, why don't you plan a family activity for him to spend some quality time with you and your daughter? This way he'll have less stress about it and do what you're hoping he will. He's not going to be thinking straight right now. That will pass as the novelty of getting to know his other daughter passes.
...............................
|
