I don't want to send messages to her like a stalker but why won't she at least talk to me?

A female age 41-50, *nonymous_Chick writes:

Let's start by saying I'm bisexual but more of a lesbian woman.. I meet a woman online a few weeks ago we hit it off same birthday (Aries) only I'm 36 and she's 50.. I noticed she said she was jealous and worried about who else I was talking to or cheating.. I decided to meet her 3 days later she started calling my phone and texting the evening of me coming saying I was a liar and cursing at me saying I'm playing games. I called and reassured her I was not playing games I was running late because I live an hour from Los Angeles she calmed down. I went to her house I spent 4 days (weekend) yes we were intimate we hit it off she left me in her house went to work etc... I went home Monday we talked threw out the week continuing getting to know each everything was good... I went back Thursday I had to drop my computer at a friends for I told her also I would be stopped to the mall to pick her up some things.. Due to traffic I missed my friend and he didn't return home from work until 8:30pm I told her I would be to her within an hour or so.. I went to get food by the mall for an hour.. She started texting an hour later going off about me lying and that I was messing with someone else that's why I had not got to her house yet.. I'm like what are you talking about I got food by the mall to burn time waiting for my friend she was erratic and upset she calmed a bit I told her I was on my way... When I arrived she became happy but I told her I don't like they she was acting and that she needs to have trust... She says I just don't want to share you with anyone I said you need to chill you haven't seen me doing anything... We went up to her place had a nice evening I brought her gifts she was excited and back to her cheerful self.... I stayed 5 days this she worked during the day spent the evenings together one evening she said I want you to move in and I want you to be my lady I said we were moving fast she became upset and was like you must have someone else I said I have dogs your building don't accept animals and I don't want to live in Los Angeles I have house I can't just up root like that.. We were laying on the couch my phone ran it said hubby on my screen.. She got all bent out of shape I had to calm her down at that moment I could not tell her it was a man so I told her it was an ex-girlfriend which made her even madder she said that's why you don't want to be with you... I said baby okay and told her let's just make it official so she finally agreed that evening but was still like you need to tell her to stop calling I need you here more I said okay but I'm here 3-5 days already..She goes to work takes my car keys because she does not want me to leave and another day she took my shoes lol ... She is very insecure because she was a player and she thinks all women are players and does not want to played... I went home Monday I told her I would be back that Thursday or Friday I had a hair appointment on Wednesday... I talked to her that Wednesday 7am until 10:00am my hair appointment was a 2 hour drive from where I live she was happy I continued to talk to her threw out the day that evening when I was done I hung out with my cousin which is my hair dresser she knew that already... I called her an hour later she said where is your cousin, I said she went with her girlfriend she said girlfriend! I said why when people say that everyone thinks it's a gay relationship my cousin is married it just her friend... From that point she went ballistic for no reason cursing me out saying I was a liar and a no good cheater I always talked about my pass exes and I was a hoe because I had sex with her the first night and every other horrible name and thing she could come up with just being nasty and mean towards me then hangs up I didn't call back because she was going nuts on me... I started to text she continues to insult and rant and rave threw the night and in the morning.... I kept my cool because when someone is that mad you don't to fight fire with fire. So the next day I wanted her calm down so I told her I was driving to LA and I couldn't keep texting.. I gave her a day to chill out I started to message her on Facebook and text her phone the last 3 days to try to have an conversation about what happen and maybe meet up I sent 3 long texts and 3 Facebook messages telling her I care about her and I want to make things right I don't want to end on a bad note I swallowed my pride she would not respond.. She deleted me and blocked me on FB the unblocked me but didn't request.. I told her that how can you say you want me to move in be in a relationship and you love me a week ago and now won't even speak to me! I been really stressed out worried because I care about her I miss her so much and I'm hurt that things are going down like this.. How can she just ignore me like this it's driving me nuts... I know women are sensitive, emotional and insecure you have to handle them with care but all I tried to do is show her love.. I feel since I didn't kiss her ass that day she's trying to punish me... I know I wasn't totally honest but I always made her feel special she didn't know.., I'm wondering is she talking to someone else... I don't wanna keep sending messages like a stalker but I wish she would at least talk me....

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