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*ergiepunk
writes:Well my high school is ending and prom is coming up. I was really nervous about asking a girl, but I did eventually and got a yes! I today near end asked for her number incase anything goes wrong, and I got the answer: "sure can we deal with it later." I don't know if I pushed my luck by asking that, but Ive liked her for a while and am thinking of asking her out at prom but I don't want to screw this up. Can anyone give me some advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, fergiepunk +, writes (6 May 2007):
fergiepunk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks maverick, she was with her friend wehn i asked for number and we are already going to prom together, she thought me asking her was sweet and Imthinking of asking her out sometime at prom.
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reader, maverick +, writes (5 May 2007):
 Hello mate,
I can see how you would interperet her response as a negative thing. However, you need to think about it in context. Was she with her friends at the time or other poeple? Was she busy? Did she have something on her mind?
In any case, it's difficult to ask a girl for her number from out of the blue - do you two have an established friendship? Do you catch each other in class? Do you chat during lunch breaks? Do what you can to ensure you're acustomed to each other first or work on it now! You need to get a long to help your chances.
Someone unfamilar approaching you for your personal information isn't as pleasant as someone you've gotten to know. Having a good level of interaction will help you massively. Even if it's just seeing her in the library, smiling & making eye contact, and saying "Hi, how's it going?".
If you feel you have a good level of interaction and communication (don't get nervous she will pick up on it and it will make her nervous!) then ask her in a sincere way - preferably face-to-face. Make sure you explain why you are saying what you are asking.
"Hi there, I was wondering if you'd like to join me to the prom? I thought about it for a while and think I'd have a excellent time with you."
Or
"Hey would you have a problem if we swapped numbers? It would be handy if either of need to to reach the other one. You'know if you wanted to join me when I go surfing or if I could do with a getaway driver over the summer" (A bit of humour goes a long way)
Make sure you're calm, confident, smiling and making eye-contact. That will help your communication.
A few notes, try to catch a girl when she is away from her mates and other people - that way she won't be conciencious about how she would appear to others by interacting eith you. DO MAKE EYE-CONTACT AND SMILE!!! Use open questions like HOW, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, and to lesser extent WHY to let her get conversational.
Phew there's a lot to add but this is the kinda thing you would want to aim for - make her comfortable around you!
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