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writes: Dear Cupid, my boyfriend and i have just bought a house and we are finding it hard with money, we are coping, just, but can't find the time to save money. We want to go out and do things but we can't afford it, so we stay home and watch the tv. I don't want to lose the spark in our relationship, but it's getting that way because of money issues and it is bringing tension between us.How can we do things without spending money and how can we relax?
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Never mind experimenting in the kitchen.
Experiment in the bedroom!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Instead of watching TV one night, why not cook together? Find some interesting recipes online and experiment in the kitchen!
Also you could check out volunteering together somewhere in the evenings, one evening a week. I don't know where you are but there is bound to be a volunteer bureau that can help you find something that interests you. Some nonprofit theaters need ushers, for example, and you'd get free entertainment because you'd get to see the play too.
The other posters had some great ideas too, so just start thinking creatively.
Congratulations on the new house, by the way!
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (22 May 2008):
 We have loved walks in the country. This can be anything from 2 miles to a proper hike. You are not spending money there, spending time together, chance to talk, and chance for exercise. We have called into a pub for a drink, and got a take away on the way home to save money.
If you do stay in watching TV a lot, make sure you watch a good film, or comedy together. Or a documentary of interest to you both. Otherwise, it will feel mundane.
Museums and galleries tend to be free. You can get your lunch before you leave, and only get a coffee in the cafe.
Just make sure you have some money for yourself, and it is not just him who has the money to do things he wants and you have to cut back.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Do you live in a decent sized city/town? Here in Australia there are always heaps of free events on - markets, concerts, exhibitions, short film festivals etc...check out what's on near you guys!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): If you have someone in either family who can offer a plan to stretch the money, do so. Sometimes, there are organizations that can help you with a plan.
You don't necesarily need money to have fun; actually, things I like to do don't require much money.
Both of you sitting down and working together on how to get through this low point is very important. Life doesn't always have high points except in the beginning of a realtionship, then reality sets in and your faced with what you have now. Compromising; negotiation is required among you to work through the rough time. During this rough time, getting out for a walk in the park, at the beach, window shopping can break up the old. Taking a class at school to plan for the future is always good.
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reader, babymamma626 +, writes (22 May 2008):
 why don't you try being creative? Money isn't everything. In fact some of the most intimate and precious moments in life are PRICELESS!! :D Use your imagination. Try surprising him with games you've set up and created. For example, before he comes home have the house tidyed up nicely and set up trails of paper that lead him somewhere, and on each peice of paper write something funny or romantic or just totally random. Where and how the trail ends is up to you but it could lead him right back outside to the yard where you've prepared a picnic or it could lead him into the bedroom where you've created a very sensual setting with candles and scents, etc. I'm not sure what any of either of your intrests are, but if you enjoy nature there are TONS of things that you can do for free with nature also! And it can be fun and exciting! Just be creative and that all in itself with create spark because it shows that you have MAJOR intrest him pleasing him. In return you may find him trying harder to please you :D
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