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writes: i have a very good female friend. i like her so much. she is shy, and hasn't been in relationship for years due to it.it's come to a point where i'm thinkin about her all the time! i want to know if she would consider dating me?how can i do this?i've asked a few girls before, but everytime they find out i like them and they stop talkin to me or act really weird and avoid me for months!i cant afford to lose this friendship. so plz help me out. i'm so desperate to find out if she would ever date me? she beautiful and i'm just a below average looking guy. so that's the problem.
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reader, lupa-k  +, writes (24 April 2007):
I suppose that you could put it in a note if you were reluctant to speak to her face to face, but then there is always the problem of wondering when she has read the note, whether she is ignoring you etc. On the plus side, it would give her the opportunity to give you a more measured and thought out answer when she does speak with you. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for your replies. would putting everything in a note be better? as she will have time to think?
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (23 April 2007):
 I agree with Kenny, go with the gentle approach.
Be subtle and take things slow, the eye contact and light arm/hand touches are good tips.
If she looks back at you like regular eye contact for about 5 seconds (do not look at the watch) and smiles back at you even in a pause. If she is shy, she may look away more often with you as she does with other people. Have you caught her looking at you? Does she play with her hair when you talking to you. Does she stand/sit near you and her body facing you all the time.
It is difficult to tell as she could be just being friendly and it is normal to make contact with friends when you talk to them. So do not get hopes up to much.
I would try litle hints, like compliment her how nice she looks for a while and see what happens.
Who knows, she may like you too and could be waiting for you to make the next move.
The most efficient way to find out is to actually tell her how you feel as she may never get the hint. Either way you need to know if she likes you back.
You will not ruin the relationship if you tell her how much the friendship means to you before saying anything else. Explain to her that whatever happens, you will be there for her, so that she does not feel under pressure. Be prepared for either answer as you can not make someone like you that way. And it can hurt like hell.
For the record looking like an average guy can be more sexy than looking like the doll Ken. Do not put yourself down, real beauty is inside and true love never fades.
This girl must be very special for your feelings to be so strong. The fact that she is beautiful, should not stop you from letting her know how you feel.
If you do nothing, you may regret it the rest of your life.
Be positive and good luck
Angel of Love
xxx
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reader, kenny +, writes (23 April 2007):
 If you don't want to ruin your friendship tread very carefully when getting your feelings across. Keep her as a friend, go out and do the things you normally do. Drop very subtle flirtatious gestures that in a round about way get the point across about how you feel. Eye contact, light touches ect, gradually build this up over a period of time, and let things happen calmly and naturally. This way she won't feel encroached upon and will feel more comfortable around you.
All the best
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (23 April 2007):
I suppose its in the how you ask things really. Maybe you could just try and put the question as subtly and non-threateningly as possible. Make it clear to her how much you value her friendship whatever happens. And if she is worthy of your friendship, and as special a person as you believe, I'd be very surprised if she wanted to jeopardise your friendship either
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