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writes:Okay people, I have a serious problem, I like bigger girls, like huge girls, and even making them gain weight for my pleasure, for some reason I find them highly attractive, but I don't like this attraction, I am also afraid my family would ridicule me if they ever found out, and that my friends would stop hanging out with me and ridicule me as well, and I like the idea of being attracted to thinner women, and I want to get help, but I don't know where to start! and I've heard all the responses like "oh just accept who you are" and "It's normal" but I don't want to hear that anymore, I don't want to be attracted to fatter women anymore and I want help! Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 So screw your family. Honestly, life is too short to care about what others will think.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 July 2011):
 I'm sorry but that's a lousy reason to go against what you like...
if you were gay and your family didn't like that what would you do?
eventually you will not be under your family's control.
be true to yourself.
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reader, antoniodamian +, writes (21 July 2011):
antoniodamian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I have Noticed now that I can make myself like different types pf women, strange though, but I fixed my problem the reason I didn't want to like bigger women anymore is because my family would never cease to make fun of me, my friends wouldn't give a s***, but my all of my family and family members would go hysterical because of this.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (9 July 2011):
Here's an idea. Wait until you are out of puberty and then see what happens over the years. You're still in the middle of developing who you are, your tastes probably fly all over the place. So take your time, relax, and just let what happens happen.
There is no real way to "change" yourself. But change comes naturally, so wait a few years and see what happens.
Until you're actually in a position to choose if you want a girlfriend or not (as in someone showing you their interest), this is irrelevant. Really. If some girl comes along that you've got a shot at, decide if you like her like that or not, and then move on from there. Until that happens there's no need to trouble yourself with it! Don't take problems in advance.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (5 July 2011):
OP, why exactly do you want to be attracted to thinner girls? Can you explain that for me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 July 2011):
you really can't change nature...what you are attracted to is what you are attracted to....
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reader, antoniodamian +, writes (5 July 2011):
antoniodamian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes but see thats the problem, I do not want to be attracted to larger women anymore, and I have some ideas and thinner girls do turn me on, but whenever I'm with them, but this is going to sound strange but whenever im not with a woman i feel very attracted to larger women, i just want to know if their is a way to develop a stronger attraction to thinner women, i dont care if i still have th attraction to larger women i juat want to be more attracted to thin girls.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 June 2011):
I am a former BBW I was a size 26/28 and I Had men after me all the time.
IF you prefer big girls then revel in it and enjoy it. There is nothing wrong with you having a preference...
it's like saying "I'm gay and I don't want to be"
what you like is what you like...
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (29 June 2011):
The only problem I see is when you try to encourage an already big girl to gain weight because that's bad for her health. But other than that I see nothing wrong with your preference.
Some guys prefer skinny girls, some guys prefer slim, athletic girls, some guys prefer curvy girls, some guys prefer big girls....etc. etc. Don't think there is something wrong with you. Attraction is attraction.
You'd be surprised how many guys with your preference are out there. Just because the media says you should like a skinny supermodel doesn't mean that's the way it works in real life. Half of the world would be single and alone if that were true. Don't let anyone else tell you what you should like or you'll end up chasing some non existing image and you could lose yourself one day.
Just tell your family and friends: "I respect your preference for thin girls, please respect my preference for girls who are bigger."
But really, why are you so upset? Is it social pressure? Is it the idea that you should like those girls in Men's magazine? What happened that made you think your natural preference is bad?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (29 June 2011):
I don't think there is anything you can do really. You are who you are, you like what you like. If you don't like broccoli, and love chocolate, what can you do? If you don't want to eat chocolate, and force yourself to eat broccoli, sure, do that then. Date thinner women, be in a relationship with thinner women, but there's nothing you can do really about your attraction.
I'm attracted to men with a beard. Facial hair is hot in my book. Weird? Probably. But hey, what can you do.
Don't tell people about what you're attracted to, it's none of their business. You can say you like women with curves. But I do have no piece of inside information for you: once you start to love and care for someone, their inner beauty is what matters, thats what makes them attractive, not their looks and physics. To a degree of course the physical aspect matters, but for most people, it is inner beauty that matters most on whether or not they are attracted to someone.
You're young, you haven't experienced a real relationship yet, but you will understand this with time. So try not to worry about the attraction towards heavier girls, just know that looks is one thing, but personality matters the most. And if you find an attractive personality in a thinner woman you would be attracted to her as well. If you find an attractive personality with a woman yo are also physically attracted to though, why would you give that up? Why do you want to fight what you're attracted to?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2011): There is a whole fetish dominated by the 'chubby chasers' and the bigger girls absolutely adore you. There is nothing wrong with being a hot blooded male who wants a whole lotta woman. You are a refreshing change from the guys out there who want the cookie cutter, superficial girls, who are thin and waif like. (And dont think I am some fat girl cheering for you coz I am actually one of those skinny girls - lol dont I sound like a lovo) U r a breath of fresh air. Screw ur family and your so called friends, if they ridicule you then they are not real family/friends.
Dont hate who u r and try to become like every other lemming out there. Be a real man, stand up for what you like. Grow a pair of balls and get over the peer pressure, it seems weak.
I reckon the bigger girls will be all over you and your going to be the guy getting the action, while your friends are chasing the girls that all the guys are chasing. Ur friends might as well get in line coz those skinny girls are use to having guys wanting to bang them coz of their bodies. Give the bigger girls a treat and go and try to bang them for their bodies - u'll give them a confidence boost and they might just love you for it.
Sorry if I sound horrible, I realise big girls have feelings too and dont want just want a guy to want them for their bodies (but if we r honest, I dont think that big girls get as much of that attention as skinny girls and might therefore enjoy it for a change.)
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