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writes:Hi everyone I am really really looking some help. I am 22 years old and i live with my partner of 7 years who is 24 years old. During the working week he is lovely but at the weekend he takes drugs (goes out on a friday and returns home on the monday) it is making me feel really low and I dont sleep properly as I worry about him. I have asked him to stop and he says all of his friends does it and he enjoys doing it. our rental lease ends at the end of this month and I really am debating leaving him. I could go back and live with my parents for a while and I dont think i have the confidence to meet other men. I like the security of my own home (with my partner) and being in a relationship. I really dont know what to do.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Would you say that he uses recreationally or he is an addict? I would think recreationally if he can handle himself during the week okay. If that's the case, I think it's worth issuing an ultimatum, because he can make a choice of his own fre will, either the drugs or you go. You'll know where his loyalties are after that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Hey,firstly I would like to offer my sympathises for what your going through. Teh realisation that he is losing it and that you can't really do much about it, because as he has admitted, he enjoys, must be very hard.You have done teh first step which is talk to him about it and asked him to stop. Unfortunatley drug users don't stop because of a plea. They have to come upon an epihnay bytehmselves. a moment that proves to them that they have reached rock bottom. Of course you can offer as much support as you possibly could endure, and freinds likewise. But the desire to stop and commit to cleaness has to come from him. Perhaps you should advise him, one last time, that you can't cope with this anymore. Explain to him that his addiction keeps you up at night, worrying sick. That you dont want a future like that. tell him all your concerns with this problem. however do not give him an ultimatum. ultimatums never work. You have to talk to him and explain that you love him unconditionally, but that you hate to see him like this and that your ant't cope. SO tell him to reflect upon this. If he does continue, then move out. Parents are amazing, and they will offer you all teh support that you need. best of luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 March 2011):
He prefers drugs and friends over health and you. I'd leave. That's about all there is to it really. Don't stay with someone who's just going to wreck your life and not give a damn.
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