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writes:Okay, this is a bit um... interesting. Here we go: I dated this girl for a very short time (I think it was about two weeks). We broke up because a. We weren't really meshing, and b. She was pressuring me to go too far too fast. The problem was, she dumped me. I had given her hints that we needed to break up, so I think she took them, but the even bigger problem is that she told the whole girl's dorm (we're in a boarding school) that I was 'sexually abusing' her or something. I hadn't, but people don't know me too well yet, so many of them believed her. They're pretty angry at me. Abusing women is something I am strongly against, and I was in disbelief when I heard that people believed her. The ironic thing is that she was the one pressuring me.I talked to her about it, and she denied that she was spreading those rumors. Even though I didn't believe her, I said I did and asked her to clarify with the girls she had told. She said she would, but she hasn't. Anyways, the even worse thing is that this all happened a few weeks ago. People have forgotten about it, but they still kind of think of me as someone to abuse women. I don't really want to bring it up again, but I don't want to labeled as some 'sex freak.' Is there anything I can do? Thank you!!!
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reader, go4jess +, writes (16 November 2008):
That is just wrong. I agree she needs a slap. She went wayyy too far.If you can Ignore it . But, if you can't ignore it send me a letter. I have all kinds of annoying but harmless tricks up my sleave. The reason that they are harmless is because you probably don't want to hurt her, or start getting called any more names. only use a select amount of my tricks though. Or you might get stuck under the label goofball, or sha might start spreading more rumors. My user name is go4jess, send me a letter!!!!!!!
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (16 November 2008):
 That's out of order!! I'm sorry, but I think that your ex-girlfriend is being extremely immature and she seems like the type of person that I woud not get along with in a million years.She's spreading rumors like this, when you haven't done anything wrong, and the worst part is, people have been abused that way, and so she isn't only trying to hurt you, but could also be hurting people who have.In my opinion she deserves a slap, unfortunatly, I don't think that's going to happen any time soon.All I can say, is try and make some friends, and explain to them what happened, they may believe you, they may not, but the important thing, is you know what really happened. Ignore her, don't even look at her (sorry, I'm angry, this may not be much help). What about your friends before all this happened? They know the truth right? I'm sorry, this probably isn't much help, but I hate it when people spread rumors that aren't true. Someone at my school did that (one of my friends) and she almost got beaten up for it, it's wrong!!Try to make some new friends/hang out with old friends, if they start labeling you, explain to them what happened, and why she started making them stories up, she's embarrased because you didn't give in to her pressure and wants to make you pay most likely, she's going the wrong way about it, soon enough it will come back to her, and she won't know what's hit her.Anyway, sorry if this isn't much help, but I hope it has helped in any way at all. Hope everything works out okay.
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reader, Nicole.x +, writes (16 November 2008):
 Ignore her rumours, to be honest they seem pretty sick. If you haven't done anything then don't feel any guilt... hold your head up and don't let her get you down. She is probably doing this out of spite and wants too see you looking bad. Well don't let her. There is always going to be the well known story of the boy who cried wolf and if god forbid anything like this did happen to your ex girlfriend for real then the likelihood is people wouldn't believe her. Just try and forget what has been said about you and carry on as usual people will soon forget about it and no doubt your ex will soon after feel very guilt for what she has done.
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