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writes: so how do I break up with her? we're both sophomores at different colleges, and have been dating since senior year of high school. i just don't feel the same way as I once did, and i really don't want to hurt her. she's been asking things like what "we" should save up for, and asking to get married after college and before grad school. her school is about a three and a half hour drive, and when i visit, it's usually for a couple nights. i definately won't be able to make the trip until late May. i talk to her every day on IM, do i just feign like everything is fine until then? our anniversary is in june and she mentioned today she already shipped me a present. is having a phone conversation out of the question? i love her deeplylost, confused and crying my eyes out over this
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reader, u  +, writes (27 February 2007):
why u guys so selfish tell me????? of course you will hurt her BUT only if she loves you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2006): if you are ready to forget the one you loved then you are ready to forget everything in your life coz love is something when you cant give it you have to look for someone to help you but its just like the wind you cant touch but you can feel
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reader, bonym +, writes (13 May 2006):
 If you stay with her then you will only end up hurting her in the long run because she will eventually find out how you truly feel and she will have wanted you to have been honest with her. I am a bit confused though, you said right at the end that you love her deeply, well if you do why do you want to break up? Do you mean you really care for her, but are no longer in love? Either way, you cant stay in a relationship if the feelings are not the same on both sides. You have got to want to be in the relationship. xXx
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reader, prttymtlkitty +, writes (9 May 2006):
 Ok, so you love her but want to break up? Is it the distance getting to you more or the pressure? If your ok w. the distance, but can't handle the pressure then you need to let her know before you do something you may regret. Once the pressure is off, your feelings for her may return 10 fold. Its important to get established in life first before getting married, let her know that. Maybe consider a promise ring. That would be very romantic and reassuring too. However, if you just don't feel the same and are just going through the motions, ask her for a break or let her know how your honestly feeling. If she knew you didn't feel the same, do you think she would want to stay with you? Probably not, so that is a good way to get the ball rolling if you really want out.
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reader, Clarey +, writes (9 May 2006):
 It sounds as though she is putting too much pressure on you. You say you love her but are considering breaking up over this. I think you can be honest about it, you sound a lovely person. Perhaps you should say that you are too young to be making these plans and that they are scaring you even though you love her. If you want to see her then ask that it should be as boyfriend ad girlfriend but you want to take things much more slowly. Otherwise ask for a break to give you time to think. Once you have had that time you will be clearer in your mind. It hurts like hell to hurt someone you care about and I feel for you.
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