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writes:hey,My girlfriend broke up with me some time ago now (about 4 months) and it was extremely hard, we fell out even thought she said she wanted us to stay friends. We have recently started talking more and we are becoming friends again but i always try to reassure myself that i'm over her (i know for a fact she wouldn't go out with me again), what frustrates me is that i don't really fancy any other girls...i just don't seem to be able to. is it because i still like my ex? I'm so confused, i just want to be able to start dating other girls. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): thanks a lot for your help,
i'm in a position where it is hard to avoid her, we talk over the internet a bit, but we hardly see eachother, only for a second in school or something. but we were supposed to meet up tomorrow. she has made other plans though so can't make it, and thats dissapointed me a lot because it seems as if she always has something better to do than see me, even when we were going out she was always so busy with her friends that it didn't leave time for us. i confronted her about it but she denies it and it makes everything worse. i feel like giving up on her completely because i keep getting hur even though she doesn't mean to, but i just can't bring myself to abandon our friendship.
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (19 February 2008):
 Just because you dont fancy anyone yet, does that mean you have to turn back to your ex. It might be sensible to cut down on talking, not breaking off comminucation with her completely, but keeping a distance so you dont end up growing to close. Just keep telling yourself your over it and keep your mind off relationships, she's obviously hurt you, and you need some time to recover. Keep yourself busy, you dont need to have a girlfriend, and nor do you need your ex. When you feel lonely, and cant find a right girl dont look back at her, remeber it is done and can only be looked at has a memory. Youll soon find yourself back in the love game again xx
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reader, bemused  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Hi there.
In my opinion the fact you are not over your ex IS a reason why you are unsure about dating others. It is kind of a knee jerk reaction and a human one. It sounds too like you are wanting the right thing which is to move on from this...there lies the conflict.
I applaud your maturity in remaining friends and still talking to her but it would be my suggestion based on what you say here that you cool the communication with her for the time being. People always say that a broken heart is more easily mended when you are younger but I disagree...those first few breakups can be brutal. Are you in a situaton where you still have to see her. If you are that makes it harder. I would avoid seeing her, avoid talking to her and get out there and get on with your life. I do not think you can want romance to happen...I think it will when you are not looking for it. Pull up your collar and weather this one. She will start to fade from your mind and you will have good days and bad days but you will move on. Good luck and keep us posted.
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