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writes: so me and my boyfriend had sex last night (not for the first time) we have sex a lot. but last night he layed me on my back on the couch with my hips down coming off. he was on his knees with my feet on his shoulders, so my legs were straight up pressed against his chest (know what i mean?) but when we started actually having sex it hurt so much when he put "it" into me. i gasped so hard and told him that he should stop but he just laughed at it and pushed "it" in again harder causing an even bigger reaction from me. i started crying because it hurt sooo much. he stopped and hugged me and kissed my forehead and told me "its okay, be quiet, its okay" i calmed myself and started to put my clothes back on when he stopped me. he said "ill be gentle, dont put them back on" he got ontop of me and we started having sex again. this didnt hurt until he started going faster and harder and pulling my hair. i tried not to cry again and it was only a few tears that i couldnt hold back. after he was "done" he held me close and kissed me and said "oh my god what would i do without you baby. wow." my question is does he realize that he is being too rough? and how can i make him settle down some in bed, i dont want to cry making love to him! Reply to this Question
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reader, jENN891AU  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 What an assh***
sorry for my bluntness
but his pleasure shouldnt be put ahead ov your own body
if hes rough and making you cry
he should stop and be there for you while you are upset and crying
just tell him you DONT like it that hard and rough
and he needs to respect you and your body
you deserve better if he doesnt want to respect you like that
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 if someone doesn't stop when you say to its rape
anyway, break up with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): You're absolutely right, sex shouldn't hurt, and absolutely not to the point where you cry. Any guy who would do this is at the very best a clueless idiot. Maybe he's been watching porn and has 'learned' from there how sex is done. Or maybe he's just a cruel bully who gets off on inflicting pain.
Regardless, this can't happen to you if you don't let it. Talk to him in some neutral place when you're *not* going to be having sex and tell him that if he *ever* wants to have sex with you again that he's got to be gentle, and that he stops cold the second you say something isn't working for you.
If your age is right, this is one of the reasons the aunts on here sound like such broken records saying 'you're too young to be having sex.' The boy is an ignorant idiot, and if you're too young to stand up for yourself, you're too young to be doing this stuff.
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reader, scrdofyou +, writes (19 September 2009):
 making love?? HOW OLD ARE YOU? how old is he? You shouldnt even be having sex, but since you are already, my advice is next time he does it just put your clothes back on and tell him NO, if he cant be easier like you ask then he's not getting any, its as simple as that.
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